I’m starting to hate my ex

[TheSpecialist]

Hi everyone

I had a turbulent start to my previous relationship, he was getting it on with others for the first six weeks. He lied and tricked me with find my friends on my iPhone to change his location etc. He also went organising sex with someone else after telling me that he loved me. So the rot set in. I realise now that I never trusted him after these events. We tried and it just broke each time.

I finally emailed him last May saying that it wouldn’t work due to not being able to trust him.

We tried to be friends and still kept in touch as we do get on.

Out of the blue at new year he stated “I don’t love you in the same way and I don’t see a future for us”. Which took my by surprise considering I finished it with him six months earlier.

It hit me really hard and made me consider if I’d made a mistake. Why is this? Even though I don’t trust him, I find myself being in love with him. Potentially I’m seeing things through rose tinted glasses. But I’m in a danger zone as we are still
Talking and if he said let’s try again, I probably would even though I didn’t want that before he’d declared he didn’t love me the same.

Just a bit lost.

I’m actually embarrassed. AT LAST.

What was I thinking? 😂😂😂

Normal service resumes.

Good Lord.

My suggested response is:

'LOL! A bit late to the party (I refer you to my dumping email of May last year) but I can't fault the sentiment! Do keep up with the next one

That’s what my friend said. “At least he’s realised”
😂

His behaviour is pitiful and you are much better off without him but why on earth were you stalking him via find my phone? I would find that really creepy if a new boyfriend was doing that

This sounds like a teenage/early 20s tryst but then you mention a previous relationship of 10 years so I'm assuming you both have some years to you.

The psychology behind these kind of feelings is interesting. But this reads like school playground antics.

@LampLighter414

This sounds like a teenage/early 20s tryst but then you mention a previous relationship of 10 years so I'm assuming you both have some years to you.

The psychology behind these kind of feelings is interesting. But this reads like school playground antics.

Don’t be so rude!!!

Real feelings are involved here and a lot of heartache over many many months.

Is he trying to gaslight you into believing that he dumped you?’ What a twat! Has he been in a coma for the past 6 months? Wanker.

I reckon he is with someone who has found your messages, asked who you are and he's gone the whole "just my ex that I broke up with ages ago, she's obsessed with me, always messaging" then sent that random I'm not in love with you message to "reassure" his new beau that he has put you in your place and she's the only one for him. Creates competition for the new gf, might make you feel some kind of way in a want what you can't have and if you were to feel some kind way he also gets massive ego stroking from both women competing for his attention.

@singlemummanurse

I reckon he is with someone who has found your messages, asked who you are and he's gone the whole "just my ex that I broke up with ages ago, she's obsessed with me, always messaging" then sent that random I'm not in love with you message to "reassure" his new beau that he has put you in your place and she's the only one for him. Creates competition for the new gf, might make you feel some kind of way in a want what you can't have and if you were to feel some kind way he also gets massive ego stroking from both women competing for his attention.

I think more likely it is his mother.

@torquewench

A couple of replies for you:

Dear Ex

I refer you to my email of last May when I ended our relationship because you couldn't keep it in your pants.

Regards,

The Specialist

Or: "did you mean to send this to me or is it intended for your latest victim?'

Or just: 👍

Then block. What a bellend

BRilliant!

What would you advise a friend?
Do that xx

“Time for you to f#ck, cock lodging, manipulative little sh1t”

Oh. And that’s what I did. 🥳