I just need to be ok being me. I need to learn about myself again, I have no idea who I am, what I like, what my values are, nothing. My past relationships, apart from the marriage I walked away from, have also been with losers, chests, liars and generally undesirable arseholes. The pattern is so obvious when I look at it, I just don't really know why, or how to break it.
I suspect this feeling of not knowing yourself comes from you being a bit of a Chameleon partner with someone. What I mean by that is that people like that go along with their partners wants and needs, their hobbies and preferences sometimes right down to the music/TV /food their partner likes. And with the next partner they gradually morph into the ideal girlfriend for that one. Typically these types also overlap relationships, by having one in the wings while the old one is ending. It's as if they don't know how to be on their own. Does this sound a bit like you?
Ok - a brand new perspective: since you don't know who you are, what you like, treat this new single phase as you getting to know yourself the way you would have with a new partner. I did this when I found myself being lost after a partner who I basically morphed into Ideal Girlfriend mode for. I tried restaurants he would never set foot in, went to gigs that interested me, bought the trashy book that wasn't intellectual for him. I signed up for hobbies that I liked the sound of that he would have scoffed at. Basically I kind of dated myself for a change, and it was transformational for me. In the course of this, I found I enjoyed my own company and quite like doing my own thing.
I'm with someone now but I'll never be afraid of being on my own again.
Being in a bad relationship is far more lonely than being on your own.