What do we talk about ?

[kermitswig]

Trying to rescue my marriage. Married for 20 years. He doesn't do small talk. We only have the DC in common. We literally have nothing to talk about. He is chalk and I am cheese in terms of hobbies/TV/opinions. He doesn't have dreams or ambitions or long terms plans.

What on earth do we talk about ? how do we have a laugh together ?

@MargosKaftan

That's true if the OP overlooked his fundamental boringness from the beginning because he was hot or because she just wanted to be in a relationship with him.

But an awful lot of blokes allow their fundamental boringness to hang out when they are safely married. They seem to feel the only point of having a life/interests/charisma is to ensnare a woman who will take care of you as you max out on being incredibly boring and then start to resent her when she has the temerity to seek anything as demanding as a conversation. I've seen this happen so many times.

The favoured party trick of a lot of blokes is they hide their boringness behind a hobby or an interest (doesn't matter what it is, it could be football or obscure rare groove 12 inches or Civil War Battles) and geek out on this passtime ad nauseam but become utterly incapable of talking about anything else outside of this.

So it may be that the OP was sold a pup here.