Friend is a different person on social media

[bjjgirl]

I have a friend who is nice in person but has the most fake, shallow social media personality it's hard for me to stomach.
She goes on and on about her perfect husband who treats her badly
Boasts non stop about their expensive possessions yet cries poverty
You can't go on a night out without it being turned into a photo opportunity, I am just not like this and I find it hard to stomach

She is not my only friend obsessed with social media and I just don't get it, how is best to handle. I have withdraw but I've just been invited to her baby shower - another whole thread about why they have now become the norm. I just can't deal with the fake persona and the contrast to real life

I would unfollow her (I have unfollowed her house account and others) but she would know and take it personally

I have to keep on good terms as we have lots of friends in common

I suppose it may just be a generational thing, I had my kids 14 years ago and there were no baby showers back then, you shared the odd photo but you were present at events because you wanted to be there

I think you could unfollow her, with a carefully worded response prepared if she asks you about this. But I don't personally think you can otherwise raise it. I have a family member who sounds similar and it's their prerogative to present themselves as they like on SM and if they aren't hurting anyone I don't think you can bring it up with them. It is v annoying though!

If it helps I think it's pretty well established that people like this come from a place of insecurity.

Lol I feel your pain. I know it shouldn’t bother me but people like this wind me up! But at the same time I can’t stop looking - like rubbernecking at an accident. A friend of mine has amazingly just become the first woman on earth to have a baby!! We’ve had him posing with cards including baby’s 1st trip to restaurant/1st play date/1st movie night/1st photo shoot (actual cards) and he’s only 10 days old!! She was about to bin the dad off just before she found out she was pregnant now they’re the perfect family lol

When I go out to eat with my dds, they can't start eating until they've photographed their food!

Can you mute her so you can't see her posts? And agree, there's usually a lot going on with someone who posts about their seemingly perfect life on social media.

Oh god it's so hard when people are lovely in rl and twats on sm

I have a similar friend, the snooze button is your friend

@Mybestyear

Lol I feel your pain. I know it shouldn’t bother me but people like this wind me up! But at the same time I can’t stop looking - like rubbernecking at an accident. A friend of mine has amazingly just become the first woman on earth to have a baby!! We’ve had him posing with cards including baby’s 1st trip to restaurant/1st play date/1st movie night/1st photo shoot (actual cards) and he’s only 10 days old!! She was about to bin the dad off just before she found out she was pregnant now they’re the perfect family lol

Cringe 😳

It's not a generational thing, it's just narcissism. And I'd be prepared to bet that she is not 'nice' op. You already know she says one thing one minute and the opposite the next. And that she brags and boasts. And that she slags off her husband to you.

She is fickle and fake and probably talks shit about you behind your back too.

Be less available. Very less available.

@Pinkbonbon

It's not a generational thing, it's just narcissism. And I'd be prepared to bet that she is not 'nice' op. You already know she says one thing one minute and the opposite the next. And that she brags and boasts. And that she slags off her husband to you.

She is fickle and fake and probably talks shit about you behind your back too.

Be less available. Very less available.

I do keep her at arms length due to the fact she does love to put people down behind their back so I assume she's like This for me too but then she can be incredibly kind too.

It is a generational thing and I think I will mute her, glad I'm not the only person to feel like this

she likes to put other ppl down behind their backs

Of course she does. Narcissists do.
Yes lots of boomers like social media but it sounds like you're describing someone with bigger issues than that.