Am I boring?

[amiok11]

I’m nearly 25 and I definitely had my years of fun and partying. I’m just starting to feel like I’m fed up of drinking and nights out and i spend so much money on one night out. I really just want to spend my time relaxing, having nights in, eating snacks, watching things, going on walks etc

I just feel like I’m being really boring and should make the most of being young and child-free? I always feel a bit bad doing these things with my boyfriend (who always says the exact same things as me and I have no indication that he’s bored) but I just feel like I should be having more fun at my young age.

I also feel I’m getting fed up and drained spending time with some of my friends. A really close friend of mine always has to involve a drink in our plans whether it’s a night in or going for food. She always gets over the top drunk too. The other day she made jokey comments about me being boring as I wasn’t in the mood for a beer, and some of my other friends have to.

Is it me? Is there a certain way I should be at this age?

And more importantly how do I stop feeling guilty about not always wanting to do these things?

Everyone is different , not all 25 year olds want to go out partying and drinking all the time many are settled down with children. Any opportunities to make more like minded friends ?

I think you’re just like it or your aren’t.

When I met my DH (second) we really thought when my DC were with their father we would be at the pub/out for meals/nights out etc… but we just hardly ever did! We enjoyed (still do) nights in with eachother. Obviously we occasionally go out and it’s fun, but we have big families who we socialise with.

Op you need some more varied friends......

At 25 l was running my own small business and decorating my first flat at weekends, and doing my sport on Sundays left no opportunity to have a hangover...whilst most friends were living at home and drinking all weekend....Money down the toilet literally.
Each to their own.
Find your tribe or work on your future goals as it will NEVER be as as easy as now to
Get new work skills
Save for a deposit
Take up hobbies and make new friends.
You are NOT boring and sound like you have a lovely BF too, the whole excessive drinking gets very boring after a while....
March to the beat of your own drum.

Sounds like you need newer friends who are at the same point in their life. All I'd say is be mindful not to cut so many free that it's just you and DP. You need someone outside of him too

Who says you have to spend your time doing things you're not really enjoying? What's wrong with spending your time doing things that being you comfort, pleasure and contentment?

Personally, I think it's a result of the bucket-list-30-things-to-do-before-you're-30-you-can-achieve-anything sort of content that's been aimed at people the last couple of decades. As if "achievement" and "activity" are the only things in life worth anything.

Some people need extra excitement in their lives. Some of us don't. We don't all have to go on 3-day clubbing benders or hang off a cliff or lose all our money to a card sharp in Bangkok to say we've lived. For those people that need that kind of stimulation, crack on, that's fine. But to imagine that the amount of time elapsed since your birth should dictate your tastes or inclinations is bizarre if you think about it.

TLDR: you do you. You're not hurting anybody. More power to your elbow, say i!

I agree with @Dragongirl10

I think it's your friends that sound boring to me , always needing a drink to turn something into an enjoyable event
At 25 I was focussed on building up my business , refurbishing my house and conquering the world , couldn't afford to drink endlessly and didn't have the time to hang out with the sort that wanted to
Find some new friends that are on your and your lovely sounding BF 'S own level

@amiok11

And more importantly how do I stop feeling guilty about not always wanting to do these things?

Well you have to stop caring so much about what other poeple think, and do you.

Easier said than done though and mid-20's is often a time of personal development and finding yourself/ becoming comfortable with who you are.

There's no correct way to be. You just have to accept yourself.

I'd recommend seeing a counsellor to talk through some of this.

Your friends might find your bring as you're not interested in the things they're currently interested in, but it sounds as though you're bored by them too. None of you are wrong, you're just at different stages.

*find you boring