Hey ill try to make this short.
Me and my partner have been together almost 11 years.
We don't live together - he doesn't want too but wants me to stay at his all the time.
We don't have kids together - he has 4 from previous relationship, I have 2 from previous relationship. He says he doesn't want anymore kids, wont gey the snip bit is happy for me to get a hysterectomy. He pretty much pushed that.
In December 2020 he proposed but, says its not the right time to get married.
I've tried to talk to him but he refuses to talk about any form of commitment unless he's had a drink. When he's sober he shuts down the conversation.
Have I wasted 11 years of my life? Am I going to waste more years? What does all this mean? I feel like I'm being given mixed signals.
update I told him it was over today and I'm kind of hurt by it :(