Abusive Relationship

[Neverbeenthisfarbefore]

What is the longest amount of time anyone took to get out of an abusive relationship? It feels like it's taking an eternity.

I suppose from when I realised it was abusive (emotional, psychological and financial, never physical… though there were angry outbursts and plenty of things broken around the house) it was about 4 years for me.
I thought I could change him and make him happy but he was a deeply, deeply negative and unhappy person in himself. Everything I did seemed to make him angry.
I was financially dependent on him because of the debt he had gotten me into, but one day realised I’d prefer to be completely on my arse for a few months- even years- if it meant I didn’t have to walk on eggshells whenever he was around.

Can I ask why you feel it is taking an eternity to get out?!

Hello. I half-realised at the very start (over a decade ago) but really realised a year ago. I’m not out but working towards it.

I'm not out either it's been nearly 30 years. Legal proceedings are taking forever. Everyone advising to stay in the family home and he won't leave.

3yrs and 6yrs