Could you ever just ignore someone for no reason?

[MrsSnape]

I dont know why this is bothering me so much but it is.

I have always been low on confidence so it takes alot for me to make the first move and speak to someone.

Anyway a few months ago I was walking through the school gates and another mother was coming out. I don't know the other woman so to speak but we have seen each other going in and out the school for the past few years as our kids are in the same class and I had spoken to her on a couple of occasions. Anyway as I saw her she looked at me so obviously recognised me and so I smiled and said "hi" as we passed each other and she just looked right at me and carried on walking?? Why would anyone do that?

The same thing happened to me a few years back. We'd just left school (so we were 16/17) and it was about 6 months after we'd left for good after exams etc and I was walking down the street and saw some girls from my year at school walking together. Now, we were never "friends" as such but we knew each others names and again had spoken before and so as I passed (I was on my own) I smiled and said hello and they all (about 4 of them) again just looked directly at me, fired a bit of a mucky look and carried on walking without saying a word. Why?? Ok so I was never popular at school but I was never bullied either so I didnt think I was that unpopular. That time I could just put it down to schoolgirl bitchyness but then the mother at school got to me quite a bit, why just completely ignore someone that has done nothing to you??

So is it me? is it unheard of to say hello to someone you're not "officially" friends with or are they being horrible?

Has it ever happened to anyone else on here?

Sometimes people are miles away or having a bad day and you can take it the wrong way - i think this happens to everyone sometimes. Sometimes people are cliquey and do mean it - but you wouldn't want to be friends with people like that anyway would you? You did the right thing trying to be friendly - so sod 'em!!!

I find mothers in the playground can be just as (if not more) bitchy than schoolgirls.

It is quite common although I don't know why they do it.

One of the Mum's at my school has done exactly the same thing to me, so now I avoid her.

I'd love to know why people do this too, a simple "hello" isn't hard to do ffs.

MrsSnape, it's happened to me too. One mum at the playgroup just looks right through me every time. She also invited all the children bar mine to her dd's birthday party. There is no obvious reason for it, I don't even know her name, and she does say hello to my dh when he takes ds to pg . I am probably older than most of the other mums there, but nobody else is so blatantly rude but her. To be honest, I just let it go over my head and carry on smiling (in a cool way, lol) at her when we meet. Don't let it bother you, it really is NOT you, it's them!

I know, I mean if they were miles away you can usually tell but this woman litrally looked at me as if to say "what are you talking to me for?" really horrible she was and Ive done nothing to her or any of her little snobby friends.

I can be extrememly anti-social but I could never just ignore someone like that

Actually, while I'm on the subject, this woman has even shut the playgroup door (pass number protected) when she's seen us running up behind her to get in. I'm just remembering how nasty she is. Probably wears her knickers too tight or something

LOL Scotia, thank god it's not just me that attracts this kind of behaviour. Ah well, we'll all be unpopular together then

Your best defense is not to care - people like this are horrible and not worth worrying about. They both sound like they've got their heads too far up their own arses

I can't believe it bothers you so much
She might of been day dreaming or in a rush or depressed and not wanting to talk - I really wouldn't take things that personally. She might of thought you were talking to someone else or anything.
I've probably unintentionally done it myself many times and sometimes if I haven't got the time or the energy I have actually pretended not to notice people or even crossed the road or changed supermarket isle to avoid them - I especially do it if I look like shit
I also screen my phone calls - it doesn't mean I don't like people but life is so busy and stressful there is not always the time.

That's the spirit MrsSnape

Don't know if this helps but I recently read an analogy about a ship full of rubbish which can't dock anywhere as no-one wants all the rubbish. So now when someone behaves badly towards me I try to see it terms of a big ship full of rubbish coming towards me, i.e. you don't know what "rubbish" is going on in her life to make her behave that way.

I also lacked self-confidence when I was younger. Now I just think it's sad that some people are very hard to get to know. If you have good friends then I would just accept that this woman (through her own behaviour) will not become one of them unless she makes an effort to be nice.

I would keep saying hello though. It might mean more to her than you realise.

Gosh that's so true - you don't realise what people might be going through in their own lives. Agree as well that when you feel awful and self conscious yourself you can sometimes come across as being standoffish. I know - I often feel awful and self conscious especially first thin gin the morning!

Gosh that's so true - you don't realise what people might be going through in their own lives. Agree as well that when you feel awful and self conscious yourself you can sometimes come across as being standoffish. I know - I often feel awful and self conscious especially first thin gin the morning!

Really agree with first gin in the morning(grin)!

Just ignore her next time you meet. These people are not worth you worrying about. Its happened to me more times than I care to remember. It might be that they are having a bad day but I'd never ever ignore anyone. Some people do, they are not worth the time of day.