How to handle ghosting

[Rockchk31]

I’m going out of my mind the last few days, I found out the guy I was seeing has been lying about something major and called him out on it, he denied the lie, I then showed him the evidence and he has ghosted me ever since. I feel I need an explanation and it’s him who should be trying to get me to talk to him and not the other way round! It’s driving me mad!!

We don't know what he did.

However he clearly did something unacceptable and he believed you would never forgive him so he's in affect ended the relationship. You didn't get the chance to discuss it which is why you are hanging on for closure.

To be honest he's made poor decisions and I would just forget him. He isn't worth your time. In affect he's probably saved you a long unpleasant emotional conversation. Besides if this is how he is going to act then he clearly isn't reliable and you are probably better of without him.

You just have to let it go. He clearly didn’t think as much of you as you thought and is therefore capable of doing something like this. Just block and move on.

Just block and delete

Never chase after a man or a bus because there is always another one coming along. Your new mantra. It will save you if you say it often enough.

People do this when confronted. Easier than explaining. .
Let it go x

Pretty much how it goes with a coward. There is no closure any better than what you have witnessed. That he is a liar and a cowards.

Rejection of any kind hurts but you have to know you actually rejected him first. You called him out on something and you didn’t let him weasel out.

If you are really feeling bad I suggest listening to some YouTube’s that stress if someone doesn’t want to talk to you, then you don’t really want to talk with them. You’re better than that. Or maybe on fo those feel good dating empowerment books. If I feel low I’ll have a read and it motivates me to continue a high value lifestyle of valuing myself and what I bring to the table, and not how someone else judges me.

I’m proud of you for not letting him wiggle his way out of whatever he was lying about, and please be glad he is no longer in your life. He is a coward and a liar. The best closure is the kind you give yourself.

Good luck!!!!

Isn't it better this way really? I mean, you don't really need him lying and gaslighting you on top of what he did do you? What if you ended up giving him another chance on the back of it!

Of course it sucks not getting closure. But I suspect you would never get that from him anyway. Only shitty excuses or more lies. Or him reversing it on you somehow.

What it comes down to is that he is shit.
And you're going to have to make your own closure.

He may try his luck again sometime down the line and ask to meet you. Don't be fooled into thinking it will do you any good to meet.

You outed a liar. And now you're free. Really, it was lucky tbh!

It's crappy to ghost someone.
So he's a piece of crap, and you deserve way better than that.
At least the door is slammed shut so you aren't let considering taking him back.
I assume he's ghosted you because you confronted his original shitty behaviour

Thanks all and I know you are all right and that he is a coward and he should have more respect for me than to just ignore me. I suppose it’s hard because it’s not because he didn’t want me but because he is a liar and if he had only taken the time to explain why it could have been very different. I’m hoping it’s because he is ashamed of what he did and feels like shit for it.

Whatever his reason for ghosting you, you know he's lied about something major. He even denied it to you when you raised it with him.

So even he'd gone to you on bended knee, there wouldn't have been a happy ending. He's shown you he can't be trusted.

He could now be ghosting you because he's embarassed that you've seen him to be dishonest. It could be his ego's bruised. It could be that he's angry you pushed the point and found him out. None of those reasons make the original lying OK though.