I have been in a 7 year relationship and have one child of 5 years old from this relationship . I also have 4 other older kids from a previously relationship . Day to day my ex partner was ok worked hard and helped now again around the house .. the problem is his spending masses of money on weed per week like £180 also gambling online .. he always then lends money and lives a week behind himself .. he does not smoke weed in the house and I do not smoke it .. it come to the point a year ago we split up and got back together but I didn’t want to live with him full time so he stays with his dad a few times per week and at mine .. I could then detach from his chaos and he could just give me money for our son . This has been unsettling for my ex and we argue a lot over stupid stuff he then becomes abusive and calls me awful names and days loads of bad stuff .. I am not financially dependent on him I work full time and hold my own .. the house I live in I did before I met him and I pay all household bills and everything in it belongs to me .. I do care about him still as I know he has deeper routed issues due to his childhood which cause some of his behaviours .. I know it’s no excuse for how he treats me .. but he has such a caring side and is a good dad to our son ..
I know it has to be over for good we have split up over 100 times in 7 years