Leaving abusive relationship, need job help. TW: mentions abuse

[Helpmeleavehim]

Hi all,

Don't know where to start really or if this is the right section. I need to leave my abusive relationship. He is financially abusive, sexually coercive and unfaithful multiple times. I don't know where to go really, I have no money, I am not allowed to learn how to drive and not allowed to work out of the home. Does anyone know of any service for job coaching that is available to people like me in Ireland?

I have no family support (I grew up in an sexually abusive and neglectful home so that explains how I ended up here really, no friends - he has chased them all away) it will be me on my own. I have tried women's aid, but have yet to get a call back, I could not talk when they wanted to as he was here. Covid means that he has been working from home full time and my little bit of breathing space has been reduced to nothing. I will try to reply but he is in the house right now so it may be a while. Thank you to anyone who can help me.

www.safeireland.ie/get-help/where-to-find-help/

There's a list of local women's support places. Are you able to leave the house at all?

I would go to the hospital if it were me (well it was me) and ask for help there. I know in the UK people suggest going to the police station too. Does Ireland have adult social services? I'm thinking they could contact them for you at the hospital.

Go to the gardai, they will inform you of your options if women's aid don't call you back. You could apply to district court for a safety or barring order. He sounds extremely abusive and Coercive control is really on the radar at the moment. I'm in Ireland too and am going through something similar. Get onto Legal aid aswell. There is a wait list so get your name on it ASAP in case you need a solicitor etc .
Keep records of everything, literally everything he says or does. Any emails or anything keep them or can you send them onto anyone? Is there anyone you can reach out to ? Even your local church ? Anywhere you could get refuge ?
I'm in Dublin, pm if you like.
It's excruciating, I'm going through a separation at moment with an abususer too. He won't leave , we have kids and it's horrendous but you need to He brave and make the first step to recognise what you are going through is not right not normal but you can change this ...honestly believe me you deserve better . Please pm me if you need to talk more x