Apologies as this may be a long one but I just keep battling with what to do.
Bit of background I have been with my boyfriend for the past 6 and a half years. We met when we were 18 (few months off 19) and knew eachother from school. The past year and a half we have been saving and looking at buying a house however due to the current market all our offers have been unsuccessful. We speak about a future and getting a house and dog and have both spoken about seeing us getting married.
On Monday I received a message from a girl in our local area (I don’t know her but lots of fb mutual friends) saying that she had been speaking to my boyfriend on Instagram and Snapchat since June / July 2021. She sent me images of their chat on Instagram and a picture or the naked image sent to him on Snapchat. He initiated the talking as reacted to a picture she posted of her nails and they carried it on before he added her on Snapchat. The girl says that they both sent naked imagines of themselves and that the image of her was saved in the chat. She claims they spoke every day and it was like boyfriend and girlfriend would message from ‘good morning’ til ‘good night’. She says she asked about me and he said he didn’t often see me - she knew he was in a long term relationship. She also claims they planned to meet up for a walk and that they spoke all day on New Year’s Eve but ‘fell out’ because they both had had too much to drink (he worked in the AM of new year then I was with him the rest of the day/ overnight and the next day). She said this was the last they spoke. She only messaged me because she realised he had deleted her from Snapchat and asked him why on Instagram and he didn’t reply and blocked her instead.
I confronted my partner at his work and he didn’t have much to say - I was very emotional and screaming and shouting. I also saw him that night as I went along to his house to collect my stuff as I was so angry and again I just shouted at him.
Around the time the messaging started we did have a minor falling out to do with our holiday being cancelled and he then organised a weekend with his friends to a car thing. I felt left out and I did push him away.
We met the next night on mutual ground and the first thing he said was that he felt he has to let me go because he has f**d up and hurt the person he cares about the most so he did end things. He said he knows I can find better and someone who will love me and that he will never get over me. We then spoke about the situation and asked him to be completely honest as we had nothing left to lose and I do believe he was honest.
He said the girl was extremely persistent and messaged him constantly. He did initiate the talking but she then constantly was at him.
He admits to flirting with her and that he did ask her to send a picture (of her bum) and saved it in their chat. He says he absolutely did not send her images or videos.
He says he did not ask to meet up with her and that he would never meet up with her.
He says they spoke to her on the morning while at work on old years night and that he did speak to her later but she was constantly messaging him so he told her to leave him alone and blocked her. They didn’t have any contact since.
I am completely torn as I am still completely in love with the boy and i do feel I would take him back. He is adamant I am better off without him but he still loves and cares for me as much as ever. Our relationship has always been completely smooth and my friends and family are completely shocked by this revelation as this is not the boyfriend we all knew and loved.
I think I want him back but i just don’t know.
Any help??