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sweetpeaaa · 2022-01-27T09:11:58+00:00

Would you say you're in love with your partner? If so, how do you know? What do you love about them?

daisyjgrey · 27/01/2022 11:15

I've thought I loved partners before but in hindsight, and in comparison to the person I am with now, I can see that I wasn't in love with them, there's no comparison.

3rdtimemama3 · 27/01/2022 11:18

I am besotted with my husband. He’s my absolute best friend, a walking angel in all honesty. I know because I still have the butterflies, my heart fills, our children’s adoration for him is just as beautiful and he’s my everything in essence.

It’s actually very lovely to see so many people on here feel they have the same.

Anonanon1234 · 27/01/2022 11:19

@MrsTimRiggins

Head over heels. How do I know? I just feel it, deep in my chest. He makes me smile just to be around him, we laugh together all the time, he supports me in everything I do, he feels safe… he feels like home. Been married 2.5 years, together 6 years. 1 baby son.

I thought I was. Then I found out he was a damaged, out of control, cheat. And now I hate him. Horrific thing to go through.

OldFirstTimeMum · 27/01/2022 11:22

Yes I utterly adore my husband and love him deeply. It’s an acceptance of who they are even when they fart and burp and are in a grump. Love is a choice as well as an emotion. Some days you choose to deal with the tough stuff because they are your best friend, life partner and snuggle buddy. The fact that he loves me back cements it because I feel utterly safe with him. We make each other laugh every day and even hanging out together in silence is wonderful.
I waited a long time for true love but it found me and it was worth all the pale attempts at love along the way.

RoseMAR · 27/01/2022 11:22

Yes but not in the Hollywood way. He's the other half of me, we go through rough times as everyone does, but I always know he'll be there through everything. I feel completely myself around him, and never feel like I need to "try" to be this that or the other.

As PP have said, I don't have a list of things I love about him, I just love him. Warts and all xxx

PositiveLife · 27/01/2022 11:24

Yes, I'm in love with dp. But it's a strange feeling. I thought I was in love with previous partners/Ex-husband but this time is different. It's a much more still, calm feeling.
Neither of us is perfect but that doesn't matter. I'm getting better at communicating my needs in a way I haven't previously been able to.
The only thing I'd like to change is the logistics of it so we could see each other more but that's not possible because of work and kids.

OldFirstTimeMum · 27/01/2022 11:25

@Anonanon1234 I’ve been there and it took a while to get over my ex narcissist damaged cheat. I was also head over heels and I fell hard. Don’t give up… once I properly forgave him (it took a while) I found life and love again and learnt all about narcissism so that I could heal from the wounds of the past.

Keke94LND · 27/01/2022 11:26

@daisyjgrey

I've thought I loved partners before but in hindsight, and in comparison to the person I am with now, I can see that I wasn't in love with them, there's no comparison.

This is how I feel, I was absolutely obsessed with my ex, OBSESSED, but we actually didn't have a lot in common and he was quite boring, at the time I thought that obsession was love, but with my bf now, I'm not obsessed with him (because I've gained self respect lol) but I am definitely in love with him.. it's weird,

Valkyrie40 · 27/01/2022 11:29

Yes. Even when we go through a rough patch or argue I am always still in love with him. The thought of not being with him is painful. He was cuddling me in bed last night and I felt like my heart would burst with love - I struggle sometimes with saying soppy things as I'm not one for laying all my cards on the table but I do tell him that he's the only man for me and that I love him. He has always been more of a compliment-giver and tells me I'm beautiful etc.

He's in his fifties now and I've started to feel a bit of a sense of just wanting the time we spend together to be as good as possible - I don't focus so much on petty arguments or go into moods as I'm scared of something happening to him and i haven't told him I love him that day or whatever.

I sometimes wonder if he hypnotised me when we first met - I love him that much!

We definitely don't have a perfect relationship (who does?) but I know I'm far happier being with him than I would be without him.

We've been together 20 years.

blyn72 · 27/01/2022 11:37

I was definitely in love with my late husband, though I didn't always realise it, and we went through some hard times. However it definitely was love and he was certainly in love with me, it never wavered.

Other than him, I have had a couple of infatuations which fizzled out though I was swept up in them at the time.

Nobody now, neither would I want it.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 27/01/2022 11:39

Yes
I know because he's my favourite person. He makes me feel happy and joyful and cared about and he's fun and gorgeous. He loves me too :)
3.5 years together and I think we maintain this feeling because we don't live together or have children together!!

OrlandointheWilderness · 27/01/2022 11:56

I'm very much in love. I am in the wonderful giddy new stage - we've been together 8 months. I adore all I've seen of him so far and I think we have the makings of something solid and lasting.
The world seems so new and lovely!

Isis1981uk · 27/01/2022 11:59

Yes, even after 3 years (relationship after divorces) I still say I'm 'in love' - I get butterflies when he smiles at me, feel really proud to have him on my arm, fancy the pants off him etc It helps that we don't have kids together so the hormones are all still there (I have 2 kids from a previous relationship & neither of us want more). It also helps that he works at sea for 4 months out of every 7, so we miss each other loads & never take our time together for granted!

Angrymum22 · 27/01/2022 12:00

@RoseMAR

Yes but not in the Hollywood way. He's the other half of me, we go through rough times as everyone does, but I always know he'll be there through everything. I feel completely myself around him, and never feel like I need to "try" to be this that or the other.

As PP have said, I don't have a list of things I love about him, I just love him. Warts and all xxx

I think the “feels completely yourself” is quite definitive. Love is about accepting warts and all.

PeeAche · 27/01/2022 12:08

I love the very bones of my husband. I am mentally and physically attracted to him. I love having sex with him and I love all of the things that we do together. I have never connected with another person as deeply, before or since meeting him. I often can't believe it myself.

I'm sorry that this is so soppy. But you did ask! 😅

PaperBasket · 27/01/2022 13:01

Yes. Very much so. I'm 46 and I knew I'd never been in love before so, when it happened with my current boyfriend, I just knew.

He's kind, thoughtful, stable, honest, trustworthy and trusting. He makes me laugh all the time. We are comfortable just being in each other's company. I never feel uncertain amd anxious around him.

He describes it as a deep sense of certainty, contentment and security. He doesn't doubt me at all. And that's how I feel too.

It's early days but, at our ages (46 and 58), I think now I just know.

I still see my friends, have hobbies akd keep up.a separate life, as does he, but we both say that we never feel more 'at home' than when we are with each other. He makes everything alright.

PaperBasket · 27/01/2022 13:08

And I knew he was perfect for me because, when I told him that I'm autistic, rather than pretending it wasn't the case (because I don't look it), or expecting le to be 'normal' anyway, he asked me about it and what he should look out for to know that I'm struggling and what he can do to help me.

Before he knew, he'd already responded intuitively to me in ways that really helped. Because he cares.

He says I make him want to be a 'better man' and he is living up to that.

I don't need him to he better for me because I love him as he is but that is how I make him feel about himself.

And that's incredible.

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sweetpeaaa · 27/01/2022 13:46

@PeeAche

I love the very bones of my husband. I am mentally and physically attracted to him. I love having sex with him and I love all of the things that we do together. I have never connected with another person as deeply, before or since meeting him. I often can't believe it myself.

I'm sorry that this is so soppy. But you did ask! 😅

You are living the dream!!! ❤️

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sweetpeaaa · 27/01/2022 13:48

Some of these are so lovely to read 🥰

Tbh I don't think I'm in love with my partner, I think I've definitely felt love and strong feelings and that sense of familiarity/comfort some people have mentioned but I think deep down I've always felt like it wasn't quite right but I couldn't put my finger on why. Difficult because he's the only person I've ever been with so I don't have anyone to compare him to!

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MizzFizz · 27/01/2022 13:54

Yes I'm totally in love with my DH. I'm so thankful for that, because before meeting him, I had a history of falling out of love (probably more like limerence) with many past partners.

DH and I have been together for 13 years, and I still love holding his hand and cuddling up in bed. When he gets home from work I'm so happy to see him and I genuinely want to do all the nice things for him. He makes me smile when I think about him. I feel so lucky to spend my life with him. It's all a bit mushy but that's how I feel and that's how I know.

bloodywhitecat · 27/01/2022 15:06

Love the bones of the man, we have only been together for five years and we had hoped for many more but his cancer is going to put paid to that. A recent stroke means I am having to care for him in every single way but none of that diminishes the great love I feel for him. He can no longer tell me he loves me but I only have to look at his face to know that he does. I cannot imagine my life without him. I had hoped we would make it to our first wedding anniversary in May but I am not sure we will.

TheFoundation · 27/01/2022 15:09

@sweetpeaaa

Some of these are so lovely to read 🥰

Tbh I don't think I'm in love with my partner, I think I've definitely felt love and strong feelings and that sense of familiarity/comfort some people have mentioned but I think deep down I've always felt like it wasn't quite right but I couldn't put my finger on why. Difficult because he's the only person I've ever been with so I don't have anyone to compare him to!

Why do you think you need to compare?

deep down I've always felt like it wasn't quite right

What more do you need to know?

PeeAche · 27/01/2022 15:12

@bloodywhitecat I'm so sorry to read about what you and your husband are going through but so unbelievably pleased that you have found someone you love so much. Some people spend forever never feeling what you two have shared.

This thread has made me very emotional.xxx

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sweetpeaaa · 27/01/2022 15:15

@bloodywhitecat

Love the bones of the man, we have only been together for five years and we had hoped for many more but his cancer is going to put paid to that. A recent stroke means I am having to care for him in every single way but none of that diminishes the great love I feel for him. He can no longer tell me he loves me but I only have to look at his face to know that he does. I cannot imagine my life without him. I had hoped we would make it to our first wedding anniversary in May but I am not sure we will.

I'm so so sorry you're going through that. Can't even imagine how heartbreaking it must be ❤️

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sweetpeaaa · 27/01/2022 15:16

@TheFoundation I know. It's a very difficult truth to face up to 😔

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