Husband moving abroad with OW. What should I expect?

[cato40]

I hope this is the right section and someone who has been in a similar situation can advise? To cut long story short, I am European, my soon to be ExHusband is from SE Asia, we fell in love many years ago and settled here. things haven't been going well for some time and now he is leaving for OW, we have two kids 5 and 9 and no family in the UK, both work full time in decent jobs.
Tonight he said he wishes to move back to his home country with OW, fine (she doesn't live in the UK but is originally from the same place as him). He said he would like to move with the kids but I said no chance: they grew up here and will live here until the youngest is 18 (although I'd like to go back to my country but then he could argue the kids may as well go to his, I don't want the kids, who don't speak either of our native languages to have to experience any more changes and difficulties). I told them he can come and visit, we agree I keep the house I already own 75% (tenants in common) and expect child maintenance if he stays in the UK and work. If he goes back to his home country(he's not sure yet) I don't think, or would expect much as even if he gets a job there he won't make a lot of money. At the moment he seems reasonable on the financials but I will definitely get it all sorted through a solicitor in case his new plans don't work and changes his mind. We invested everything on the house and have little separate savings, I presume he will want to keep some to set up his new life. What would be a fair demand if he moves to a country with lower wages? And how would any child maintainace be enforced? Anything I should be entitled to? I want to do things quickly before he starts making plans with OW and wants more money from the house to start his new life? I am past the disappointment of my failed marriage, just want to make the kids' and my best interest! Should we settle financials and child arrangements before completing the separation? Wonder if he changes his mind and then remarries and brings OW here and then ask for a bigger slice of what we have built so far? I'd rather him go back to his home country and forget about us! Many thanks!

Solicitor. First thing tomorrow morning

Yep

But to be quite honest forget any hope of maintenance it's almost rarely enforced even with working British national nrps!

Secure the kids passports as a matter of urgency

I agree with you I think what would likely be best for the dc is he aids off out of their lives altogether

It's too disruptive and upsetting for them to see him rarely and have a very scant relationship with him. Ime it simply doesn't work and messes the kids up

Passports; also look at your county of origin to see if you should obtain citizenship and passports for your girls as different countries can have independent treaties and differing levels of diplomatic influence.

Excellent idea

Thank you all, I have contacted a couple of specialists and spoken to Reunite. I have applied for divorce online and told him, he said I was rushing too much and not to tell anybody. Cold feet or timing for OW to leave her husband are not synchronised and therefore unconvenient?
If OW takes her kids to their own country they will hugely embarass the wider community and that is a culture that cares about these things. I just can't see how they can make it work, not that I care but trying to anticipate their plans

Glad that the Reunite link was useful @cato40. Don't let ex-DH derail you & tell whoever the hell you like. You don't answer to him, you're looking after your DC! Good luck

This is a great quick reference for Prohibited Steps Orders and Specific Issue Orders
rightsofwomen.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/Children-and-the-law-child-abduction-DIGITAL.pdf

Well done on filing the divorce!

Have you given him notice to move out?

@RantyAunty not at all. Reunite advised to keep.him as close as possible so that it easier to keep an eye on his movements. Told him we can live together until he is ready to go but on his own, without the kids.
I Have made the application online and he seemed a bit panicked that I am rushing too much and we should have 'talked it further'. Really confused by his behaviour