Friends

[lothermand]

During my life with friends, I've always kept them separate, so basically don't introduce them to each other, why do I do this?

I'm now left with all these individuals, instead of a nice group of mates to invite round. I think I feel responsible for whether they get along with each other, and I'm so worried that I don't even bother to see if they would!

Maybe start small and ask a couple of them to meet for coffee or drinks to see how it goes

If they all like you then they at least have that in common

I'm the same. I think it's because I get worried they won't get on. But they're all adults so should be trusted to at least try. It makes my life more difficult as I have to do multiple meet ups.

I have introduced nearly all my friends and they have become firm friends off the back of it. I have one friend though no matter how many times I have invited her out with my friends (she always accepts), she will never ever invite me out with hers. I believe it's in a protecting way - she was bullied at school and considered herself unpopular and it's like she doesn't want me becoming friends with her friends, she only has 1 or 2..Maybe she thinks I'll take them away from her. I let it go because I think it comes from a place of hurt but sometimes I actually feel hurt by it.

Don't know why I'm telling you that really. It doesn't help your circumstance! I can tell you that all the individual friends I have brought together now make up the gang and we all go out together. So go for it! :)

I had a friend who wouldn't introduce me to her other friends saying they were her friends and it was fine to have other friends no issues with that but I did get fed up of it as all she did was talk about them behind their backs to me so I gathered in the end she didn't introduce me incase I told them what she was saying... friendship soon ended after that sadly.

Give it a go, if they don't get on it's not your problem they're adults.

What about a casual "I'm going to X with some people on Saturday evening if you'd like to join" to everyone rather than a formal party? People can always make no-blame excuses to leave if they aren't feeling the group dynamic.

It's so lovely to meet new people. Your friends will thank you.

Hold a house party and invite them all!!

Why do they need to mix?

But if there was an occasion that you wanted them all at, I'm sure they'd all be grown-ups and mingle nicely