I'm stuck. How do I leave?

[BatmanOrRobin]

Been with partner for 12 years. Not married. Have two sons. I'm in a shit position and I've been stupid and naive. We own a house together but I'm not working right now so not earning a penny. He's what I would call financially abusive. The relationship is just terrible and I need to leave but every single penny of mine is in the house. I can't get a council house because I have a mortgage and I don't want to give it all to this absolute tosser. The area I live in is crazy expensive so private renting is crazy money and when the house does sell it won't last long. I'm job hunting. My head is in such a muddle. My sons are settled at school so don't want to move them away. I've spoken to citizens advice but they didn't really help. Sorry about all the start stopping but I just don't know where to start or what to do.

Get a job, save every penny you can, don’t let him know what you are saving, meanwhile read this: www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/financial-abuse/

And remember that even if you leave with nothing and walk away with just the shirt on your back, you will not regret it because you will be free.

Financial abuse is now a crime, report it to the police. They could get you a protection order, to get him out of the house. Ask to speak to the domestic abuse unit of the Police.
Contact Womens Aid for advice. You are being domestically abused.
They can advise you on Occupation and non molestation orders. An Occupation order could get him out of the house ,a non molestation order protects you from harrassment.
Most solicitors offer a free 30 minute consultation and some do legal aid work.
It is also worth reporting the abuse to your doctor, so that you have it on record.
I was in an abusive relationship, including financial abuse. I kept thinking, if I tried harder , I could make things better. It escalated out of all control. One of the ways that I was financially abused, was him stealing and selling my belongings, gas lighting me. He was an absolute monster. I thought I was living with the devil. I had a nervous breakdown. Please look after yourself.
Abuse tends to get worse, as the abuser keeps trampling all over, any boundaries that you have. Its all about control. The more distressed I got, the more delighted my abuser seemed to be.
Take good care, wishing you well.