Is this creepy?

[Lampyshady]

Guy has messaged me on a dating app saying he recognised me from an activity I was at last week, and said he was copying how my group was doing the activity (we are beginners/were doing it badly!). I live in quite a big city and there were about 50-100 people doing this activity. Is that flattering or really creepy that he remembers me after a week?

I don’t know lots of women are advised to do this if they see a man they fancy, send them a message etc I’ve seen it on here loads and no one says it’s creepy

It's not creepy - if you're on a dating app, people are going to recognise you if you've been at an event at the same time. You clearly must look just like your photos!

Flattering?!? You catch the attention of many! It is flattering to be noticed and remembered, and also told. There are more who won’t tell you.

I’d be wary, but not super creepy… anything else out of order and cut it off swiftly.

If he gets creepy, talking about your body or such… you know.

Also, if you can’t low key verify who he is. You know what I mean. Do you know who he is?

But if you don’t like him romantically than I’d be kind and straightforward. Otherwise game on girl!

I don't think it's creepy! You caught his eye at the group and he was pleased to see you online

The right person won't have you questioning whether their actions are creepy or not.

Next!

I think that’s nice not creepy :)

I would be very, very wary about this.

It could be completely innocent and a wonderful coincidence that he was watching you in a park (out of a group of up to 100 people) for long enough to be able to identify you from a photograph on a dating site a week later, but it would creep me out if I were in your shoes.

And if you were learning how to do something in the park that he wanted to copy, why wouldn’t he be watching the instructor, not one of the random participants?

If it feels off trust your gut

I used to be on this mum app and recognised somebody I had seen in person and spoken to once in a park somewhere (also in a city) I didn't message to tell her because it does seem weird and feel creepy to know somebody has noticed you and you had no idea and then they'd remembered your face and messaged you online about it!
Just saying it can be creepy but it can also happen without being weird, our big world is still quite small, so it could just be a coincidence

@Sn0tnose

I would be very, very wary about this.

It could be completely innocent and a wonderful coincidence that he was watching you in a park (out of a group of up to 100 people) for long enough to be able to identify you from a photograph on a dating site a week later, but it would creep me out if I were in your shoes.

I agree. Innocent or not, telling people you recognise them from something so small is a really good way to creep someone out.

What does he mean he was copying how the group was doing the activity?
I do find it a bit creepy actually - the watching and copying the group.
I dunno, I think I'd be wary of him

I’ve done this looking at friends photos on
fb in the past