I can't really believe I've found myself here. I've been married 10 years and have a beautiful Dd. Things have been rocky for a while and we nearly separated a few years ago. However, I'd thought we were in a better place, and bumbling along ok. 3 weeks ago he suddenly blew over something insignificant and ended up storming out, ignoring our dd and me. He was clearly angry and I didn't understand why. That evening, when he'd eventually returned he told me we were over, he was emotionally dead inside, couldn't be bothered to try any more. I was shocked and devastated. Didn't see it coming at all. He was then awful for a week or so, refusing to talk to me. We talked again more calmly a few days later and he still says things were over, apparently he'd thought about breaking up a few times and we both kept saying we'd try harder but never did. It was heartbreaking but more rational. A week after that he said he was sorry, he knew he needed to change and that it was his fault and that he wanted to try again. He said we had too much to lose. He did try being nice for a week or so. But I still needed to talk it through. We hadn't discussed what was going wrong. I eventually got up the courage to talk, that was really hard as he always shuts me down when I try to talk and gets angry. I told him I loved him and wanted to make things work but was scared of nothing changing. I told him I needed to know what he was frightened of losing, me or the house. He again absolutely blew saying now he knows what I think of him. I tried to explain it was more about my fear and how I felt about myself but he was furious. He's absolutely refused to acknowledge my existence since. Won't look at me, talk to me, it's tearing me apart. I'm trying so hard to protect my dd from it but she must be picking up on it. I tried reaching out and telling him i love him, just got told to stop the niceties. I'm heartbroken and don't know how to fix it.