Hi
So I'm all lined up to have a Russian phd student stay for 6 months. When I informed my ex partner, whom I share 2 children with, he immediately called me incredibly stupid and naive. Pointed out Russia is about to invade Ukraine, I'll probably get robbed, drugged, raped at knifepoint, Russians are a much more dangerous breed than other Europeans. Can I not remember Salisbury where those two russians went out for a walk and got poisoned with novichok? That might happen to me. Or they won't pay any rent and if I complain they'll slit my throat at night. Why would I put my children at risk having a russian in my house, they might work for the Russian government etc.
Now all of this sounds horribly horribly racist, no individual from any country is responsible for the decisions political leaders are making, nor is it reflective on them. The student is female, I've spoke to her virtually and snooped on her social media and she seems lovely. The university have provided proof of her studying there etc. I'm just stunned at my ex's response.
My ex is actually mixed race and incredibly sensitive to anyone being even remotely racist to him. He can't see how incredibly racist he is being. Just keeps telling me I'm stupid and naive and how dare I put our children at risk. He reacted stronger on this than I've ever seen him react before.
I'm just not witty or smart enough to counter his comments, what should I be saying back to him?