Taken 360 degree turn in relationship

[Verysadperson101]

I’ve posted before but now I seem a lot more clearer. Basically, I’ve been with fiancé for nearly 8 years. Due to be married in July. Tried to have a child last year but nothing happened. I’m in my early 30’s. However, I feel like I’ve fallen out of love with him. I love him as a person, he’s kind, thoughtful, bright and dearly loves me. But I can’t help but feel like something is missing. I feel like we have drifted in some ways. I don’t really get his humour anymore and our interests are not the same. The thought of marrying him now fills me with dread and I can’t get excited about it anymore. I feel like this year I have awoken and realised I can be happy on my own. I feel like a parent to my partner and I can’t deal with the mental load anymore, let alone having a kid with him. We have so much history but I’m just not happy anymore. I’ve never been on my own and only been in long term relationship, I feel that if I don’t do it, I’ll always regret not getting to know that person. What I’m asking here is well.. how do you end a relationship when the other person is lovely and hasn’t done anything wrong as such?

It's good that you have recognised your feelings before going ahead with the wedding. All you can do is be honest because you both deserve at least that. Perhaps explain you have been doing some soul searching and feel that as time is going by you see that you are heading in different directions as people and that marriage isn't the right thing to do. It's going to hurt however you do it sadly, but better than living a lie and going through with a wedding that doesn't fill you with joy. Not a nice position to be in, to realise that you're plans are not the right choice anymore, it takes courage to face that. Wish you well.

Love, you’ve been asking the same question for weeks on different threads.

He doesn’t have to have done something wrong for you to end it. You don’t need a villain of the piece to leave this man. You deserve to be with someone who makes you happy and so does he. Consider this: if you don’t make the leap, neither of you will find the right person and the longer you will be in anguish and posting threads looking for a consensus that will make you feel better, even if momentarily. I know there’s history, but so what? You’re young. Too young to feel like a second mum to the man you’re planning to marry.

So to your question. You sit him down and tell him this relationship is no longer working for you. Maybe you explain why. But be firm and be kind and set both of you free. No doing what I did which was to doubt myself for weeks and then wait for him to do something that felt like a gut punch in terms of the neon light that was flashing ‘not the one for you’. Yeh, just make your decision, honour it and live your life.

Thank you for your responses. Yes, it’s definitely time to face up to it. This has given me a bit of courage. x