How to deal with stubborn partners

[adeleis30]

Any tips???
They're either with you or against you.
Black or white.
That's it.

All too vague to know what you’re talking about, doesn’t sound like something I’d enjoy, does your boyfriend/girlfriend enhance your life?

Well, first of all be realistic that they might be unplayable. It's hard to be married to someone who always has to be right.

But that said, do multi-stage conversations work? (Where they're totally inflexible in the first conversation but then go away and think it over and soften their stance?)

Also, is there any info to be gleaned from OH's mother/ siblings/ long standing friends on how to handle them?

Do they respond to logic? Eg if they're "against you" but then you can show them some evidence to support your view, would that make them change their mind?

What’s going on?

@deeplyambivalent 99% of the time he would be very easy going but once he decides something, there's no stirring him even if it's logical or would make life easier. Stupid stuff like where to park,which airport to fly from.
At these times it's his way or no way.
What happens when a serious issue comes up though?
It's that 1% that is going to cause the most trouble I feel.

Crossed posts with everyone there sorry and thanks.

Hm. It does sound a bit worrying, OP. Sounds a bit like my ex. I thought to myself: 'what happens when we get to a situation where I'm not willing to flex?' It did not end well...

It's not about tips on how to deal with this tricky life situation; you are choosing this situation. Decide whether you're happy with it or not. Decide whether you're happy with a partner who insists on doing things their way sometimes. If so, stay. If not, leave.

But do recognise that when he wants 'a' and you want 'b', insisting on either 'a' or 'b' is stubborn.

That's not stubbornness, that's ignorance, arrogance and selfishness !

Being stubborn means things like he always likes to do a certain thing a certain way, regardless of whether it causes him more work etc, because that's how he prefers it.

Demanding to have his own way about things that cause other people more work or is totally unreasonable due to distance/cost etc is just selfishness and arrogance i.e It's my way or no way.

That is something that will only get worse, the more you give in, the more he'll 'insist' on having everything his way

I guess how you handle it depends on if you live with them or not.

Parking: If you're driving park wherever you want to park.
Airport: If you're the one flying pick the airport you want to fly out of.

I don't think I could handle being with someone unable to compromise