He's lovely but...

[ColonelHaiti]

Been seeing this guy about 7 weeks. He's lovely but I notice when we have sex he comes really quickly like within 2 to 3 minutes. The guy before him lasted for ages which could also be a pain. What do I do?

Encourage him to spend more time on you/foreplay so you're as ready as him to come within 2-3 minutes once he's in there?

When he's nearly there, ask him to stop a minute so you can change positions/get a drink of water or something (might calm him down a bit so he will last a bit longer).

Teach him about "edging" (he'll thank you for it!).

What's edging?!

Read up on tantric sex!!

I used to use the Pat Butcher earrings technique, or Church steeples and sometimes Pink poodles...any one of those visualisations would do the trick and buy some time

Just have more sex, or tell him to take care of himself an hour or before sex or based on what ever his red refraction period is.

To be honest that’s always been long enough for me at the penetration stage as long as lots of foreplay. I prefer that to someone pounding away for 30 mins.

@ColonelHaiti

What's edging?!

Reaching the "edge" of orgasm (just before that point of no return).

... and stopping until the urgency wears off, then carrying on.

Do that a couple of times and his orgasm will be mindblowing.

It works for women too. It takes a level of (his/your self) awareness and control and practice

@TinyW

To be honest that’s always been long enough for me at the penetration stage as long as lots of foreplay. I prefer that to someone pounding away for 30 mins.

Me too.

He needs to practice the "Margaret Thatcher" technique, it works.

Almost at the point of no return, visualise Margaret Thatcher, that'll buy him a couple more minutes.

Personally (I am male), I spend however long it takes to get my wife to orgasm, by whatever means necessary, then I hop on and am done in a few minutes. Sounds perfunctory but everybody gets what they need, and then we can hit the vino and netflix!

(vino and netflix said in a David Brent voice btw)

'Hop on'

That's really made me laugh @Palmfrond

You sound so jolly

I would ask him to take care of himself before hand too.. That would NEVER be enough for me 😳 or can he go again for round 2 afterwards?

I think you need to start the conversation and hopefully he'll be receptive. Tell him how great the sex is you just want it to last longer because its so great. Rather than it being a criticism