Boyfriend moving into my house!

[DDLD90]

Hi everyone,
I need some advice please. My boyfriend is going to be moving into my home that I own in a few weeks. I am wondering how to make it feel like his home too, I don't want him to feel like he is just a guest in the house, all advice is welcome.
Thank you for reading

No one loves you more than a man who needs somewhere to live.

I would do some simple things like maybe go out and choose some new bedding together or maybe you could both decorate the lounge something simple yet making something new together if you get my drift? Dont forget the obvious more storage needed for his things too!! Get some of his favourite food / drink in so its there for him to have access to easily or both of you go food shopping daft things but if he can get involved in home stuff it might make the transition smoother? Maybe invite his family or friends round for drinks or a meal to and say this specifically "our house! Sure it will be fine whatever you do I hope you are both really happy together,,how exciting! xx

It might take him a while to feel completely at home. I moved in with my partner who owns his property and it has been a little tough making it feel like mine too, I honestly can't wait for us to buy our first house together so I can put a bit more of my stamp on it. I would clear spaces for him to do his own thing, put out his own pictures and stuff. Maybe discuss changing a couple of things so not everything is yours. The first thing me and my partner got together was a brand new bed. Good luck!

@ThisIsStartingToBoreMe

No one loves you more than a man who needs somewhere to live.

seriously?? was there any need? nasty

I don't think you need to worry too much. Once he moves in and his stuff is around the place, it'll feel like home to him. Nice suggestion above about the bedding, though.

Have you had a serious chat about finances, what he will pay into the household and what he will not have dibs on should it not work out?

Best have that before he moves in. Then you wil both know where you stand fromteh get go. It should make everything feel more conmfortable too! No surprises.

Encouraging him to do some cooking will make him feel at home in the kitchen…..

@Shelby2010

Encouraging him to do some cooking will make him feel at home in the kitchen…..

I was just about to suggest similar for drawing up a rota for the housework.

Nothing says “You live here” faster than cleaning the loo!

@ThisIsStartingToBoreMe

No one loves you more than a man who needs somewhere to live.

Lovely. The first response is a shitty one like this.

@DDLD90

Hi everyone, I need some advice please. My boyfriend is going to be moving into my home that I own in a few weeks. I am wondering how to make it feel like his home too, I don't want him to feel like he is just a guest in the house, all advice is welcome. Thank you for reading

Hello OP, I moved into my partners home with him.. now our home 😀 but I started putting my little bits around the house and we decorated a bedroom how I like, now he has beige and pink in his bedroom.. better than the grey tartan bedding he had before ha ha

Good luck with the moving in! X

Buy a few things together for the house. Doesn't have to be flashy, just a few bits that you both like.

I moved into my house partners house almost 2 years ago. I felt incredibly out of place and unsettled for quite a long time and debated moving out a few times.
He had originally purchased it with his ex wife, but had been divorced for more than 15 years when we met.

Over the last year or so, we have made so many changes and I love this house. It feels like a part of me and we’ve made decisions together. New furniture, decoration, garden - pretty much everything.

So my advice, do something even something very small where you can choose it together. Make sure he has room, not just for clothes, but also personal possessions.

He’s almost certainly going to be paying you ‘rent’, but you are also a couple, building a future hopefully together.

You should be more concerned with him paying his fair share and doing equal housekeeping. I hope you were wise enough to get a tenancy agreement in place so he doesn't try to lay claim on your home.

@Aquamarine1029 - he can’t lay any claim with or without a tenancy unless he has made material investments into the improvement of the house I.e a new kitchen or similar. Even then it’s not likely to be in his favour.

There are some right arseholes here aren't there...

Make sure there's space for his important 'stuff'.
Don't just give him a drawer - give him half the bedroom storage etc.

@Aquamarine1029

You should be more concerned with him paying his fair share and doing equal housekeeping. I hope you were wise enough to get a tenancy agreement in place so he doesn't try to lay claim on your home.

Typical of you and you're comments on just about every single thread on here. How do you know what she should be more concerned about.

Make sure he pays towards the bills and shares the cooking and cleaning.

Fucking hell the Handmaids are out tonight.
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@DDLD90 you’re very kindly letting him under your roof. I mean it genuinely that’s a massive kindness.
You absolutely 100% need to be discussing ground rules- finance, cleaning and other chores, including sharing food buying and cooking. If you’re not comfortable doing that you shouldn’t even consider him moving in.

My partner is wonderful and he loves to cook so he will be cooking a lot for us, we have just ordered a new bed and some bedding ect and are going to paint our bedroom. Thank you for all of your help everyone :) I just dont want him to come home after work and not feel like they're "home" :)

Just for balance my girlfriend is pressuring me to move in to her house and I dont feel completely ready so am delaying it until I am.
She has been very sweet and has made space for me and my possessions but I want it to be a forever thing so am waiting until we`re both completely sure about it.
There are two sides to every story,and not everybody is a homeless drifter or a gold digger either