What to expect at a non-molestation hearing

[Ithinkitstime]

Hello all. I have an on notice non-molestation hearing this coming Friday. I have googled lots but can't find answers to these questions and wondered if any of you could help please?

1. This is on notice, does this mean that my ex has a copy of my whole witness statement and evidence before the hearing?

1. What exactly will happen during the hearing? I've been told it will last about 45 minutes.

1. Can I have a friend with me?

I’ve no advice but I’m bumping this to hopefully attract more traffic.
Hope it all goes well.

I'd interested in the answer to this too as in much the same position .

Ithinkitstimenow I hope you are OK, I know it has been a hard road for me to take these steps as I am sure it has for you too x wish you the best and I hope the non molestation order has brought you a bit of peace and continues after the hearing.

That's my main concern, even though there is loads of evidence I can help worrying

Hi. I’ve got a non mol against my ex. On notice just means he’s been notified there a court hearing and what it’s for and that he has a right to attend.

I had a 1 hour slot but was only max 30mins.

I’m not sure whether you can have anyone with you but you could ask your solicitor this if you have one or call and ask the court.

In regards to what happens: the judge will already have your evidence and witness statements etc. if you have a solicitor they will put your case across and your reasons why you want/need the order. If you don’t have a solicitor you will need to do it. The judge will then ask for the other parties point of view and they will get the chance to defend themselves.

Usually if you have enough evidence and even better a criminal conviction the judge will rule in your favour

Thank you for this. Really useful to know. I am representing myself and it's a virtual hearing.

Will make sure I'm ready and organised.

@Weeteeny

I'd interested in the answer to this too as in much the same position .

Ithinkitstimenow I hope you are OK, I know it has been a hard road for me to take these steps as I am sure it has for you too x wish you the best and I hope the non molestation order has brought you a bit of peace and continues after the hearing.

That's my main concern, even though there is loads of evidence I can help worrying

I have been angsting over this too hence the post.

Has your ex been notified yet? Mine has and he's kicking off. Had to be talked down from leaving the property yesterday by the police. Such a mess, but one of his own creation not mine.

Just saying this to remind myself that this isn't my fault as he was trying to guilt trip me out of the non-mol. I do feel very sorry for him despite everything, but can't go on being bullied and terrorised.

I found out that he hasn't seen my witness statement - he said that he didn't even know why I'm taking him to court so at least that was useful info.

Good luck 🤞

My hearing was virtual and literally lasted 10 mins. He didn't contest it and the order was granted.

Lucky you - that's great.

Mine's a fighter so we shall see...

i know this is an old thread but need some advice on my bully of an ex. Currently mid way through a divorce but his intimidation and down right nastiness is continually tearing me down. Usually via text or the children.
Strongly thinking(finally) of having the guts to take out an non molestation order against him.
Will this mean he can’t send horrible texts to me?

@Knowinmeknowinyou You’d probably be best off starting your own thread to get more answers.
With that said though, yes, absolutely go for it and good on you for having the strength to leave and consider it. They only behave like this as one last act of control - you’ve dared to leave so now they’re going to make you feel awful about it to regret your decision and go running back or make you think you’ll never be free.
Keep a diary of everything and don’t delete the text messages. Document how it makes you feel and any other behaviour your ex does.
Terms of the non-mol can be that your ex is not to contact you by any means either directly or indirectly.
Sometimes it goes a bit odd where children are concerned - have seen conditions like they can’t contact their ex aside from to discuss child related matters but if you have a third party you could use for facilitating child contact / information, that could alleviate that.
Good luck and stay strong