Am I being unreasonable?

[Westmidsmum1]

So my partner works hard all week so understandably wants to chill out on the weekends. But I feel like he just doesn't want to spend any time with me or our son who is nearly 2. When he finishes work on the evening he will have his dinner and go to bed, only spends about an hour with us. Any full time mum will know its hard work and when you're in a relationship you look forward to them getting home so you have someone to talk to and help out. He is literally the only person I have as I have no friends or family either. Then on the weekend all he does is play xbox, like I said I understand him wanting to chill out after a hard week, but I feel like me and his son are just invisible. He's either out with family or friends and me and our son are at home, or he's at home but he's playing xbox sitting in the bedroom in the dark like a teenager 🙄 (he's 26 btw) he just doesn't pay us any attention. He will occasionally do our son a drink or change his nappy etc, but I can tell he's just not happy about it. As I said I understand him wanting to chill out, but what about me? I don't get to chill out, ever. I don't have the luxury of going to see family and friends whenever I want to because I don't have anyone, I'm literally looking after our son 24/7. Have spoken to him many times but always ends in an argument as he thinks I'm being unfair for wanting him to actually spend time with me and his son 🙃 am I being unreasonable for feeling like this? Thank you for reading and sorry for the long post x

I don't think he would change. He's a man child unfortunately. You are pretty much a single mum already so I'd really consider ending the relationship.

You are not being unreasonable at all. He is being incredibly selfish.
Stop doing everything for him. I think he probably sees you as the mother figure, while he just has the role of child still.

I doubt he will change.

You're not being unreasonable and I'm sorry you're having such a tough time! He sounds like a child.

How do you plan on addressing it? Could you start a hobby outside the house and let your DP look after the DC for a few hours a week?

Also, all Mums are full time Mums.

He’s not acting like your partner
Tell him if he doesn’t want to be part of the family then he can leave

You are wanting something from him and he not giving it plus he's not pulling his weight. You need to get something for you - a class or group maybe? Or even some exercise or a walk? You say he has family/friends do you get on with them ? Can you do stuff with them?

He's not being as involved as he should be, he's not being a good father. But there's also another issue here, and it's down to you, because no man should be your only interaction, you can't put the weight of your happiness on one person, it's never going to work. So why do you have no friends? Because really, saying you have no friends or family so your partner has to be your everything, is pretty unrealistic too, and needs addressing. What about baby clubs, meet other mums? Why do you only have him? His doing, has he cut you off, or your doing? That doesn't take away that he's a distant arsehole anyway, but there is clearly other stuff wrong in your life too.

or he's at home but he's playing xbox sitting in the bedroom in the dark like a teenager 🙄

YANBU. He sounds like a man-child. Get rid whilst your DC is still young.