Any stories of nearly affairs

[Sportslady44]

So we hear about affairs etc what about did you have an oportunity to have an affair but didnt?

Did you turn someone down or change your mind?

@Sportslady44 I would be keen to hear some responses here too!

Have you?

Years ago I became friendly with a man at work. We were both in relationships on the rocks and struggling. We never crossed a line until one night we were both on a night out. Drinks were had. He 'confessed' his feelings for me and asked mine. I realised there and then that while we weren't obviously transgressing...this was what was meant by an emotional affair. And it had gone too far. Fact was I did have some feelings but I knew...we were both drunk and we could genuinely eff up both relationships. So I lied and said...no im sorry I just see this as purely friendship. Reality was. Outside of the hotbed of 2 failing relationships we weren't actually meant for each other. We'd just bonded over our situations. It would have been a huge mistake.

Yeah I turned someone down once. Had intense chemistry with him.

Found out after my partner had been having an affair behind my back so it's now a big regret that I didn't do anything at the time.

yes i had a couple of opportunities but i did not take them. Dont know whether they were sex opps or affairs but

One man had a partner but was on the verge of breaking up with her, he went on to get married and have kids, Glad i didnt get involved with him. One was married man who made it clear he was up for sex but i didnt bother.

@LucyLocketLostThePlot ooft thats a cold shower. Then again....you had your dignity intact and did the right thing. If only it paid!

Yes. I have had a few opportunities. I have male friends and I enjoy their company and sometimes they make a move. I am always shocked despite it happening a few times. In my head I think they know I am in a relationship have kids etc so they know this is a friendship. And even when it happens it doesn't stop me forming new male friendships.

It annoys me that it damages the friendship.

Yes, I have a few exes from my dating spree post-divorce who would be willing to meet.
One, in particular, has been very, very, very pushy. I've just said no. They still keep asking though.

I had a near miss. I was married at the time (not happy but not totally unhappy) and had a great rapport with someone I worked with. The sexual tension was building and he invited me out for a drink one night - completely unrelated to work. I accepted but just before I was meant to go I realised that it was a bad idea and that it could end in a sticky situation, so I cancelled. Within a month I was pregnant with DS (now an adult) and the 'rapport' (with colleague) disappeared very quickly.

Colleague made a play at our Christmas party. All the hurt that an affair would cause sort of flashed before me and I walked away. Glad I did, but I'm sure we would have had fun. Wasn't right though