Friendships after having children

[LuckyMamaOfTwo]

Hi, 🙋🏻‍♀️
I was feeling a little bit low and a tiny bit lonely for a while now… since having my first baby. My friends don’t have children and I feel like we’re on different pages in our lives now. Is anyone feeling the same way? My friends are asking me to go away for the weekend all the time but I simply don’t want to because of my 18 month old and I’m also pregnant. 💕💙 All I seem to say to them is no sorry… My interests have changed completely - I don’t want to/can’t go shopping all day in a city , I’d rather go to a playground or soft play🙈

Is anyone in the same boat or am I just boring now?🙈

It is really lonely after having a baby, especially if you’re the first one in your group of friends. The others just aren’t in the same page. I had my first at 24 and was a solo mum too, and I got dropped like a ton of bricks by a group of party living people that I had considered good friends. However having my baby also showed me who my true friends were, who would be with me and the baby at the park, the cafe, in my garden. And how resilient I became as a result of having to be so present, responsible and kick ass in my 20s. I’m sure you will be doing all those things too. And you never know, out of those people you see at the swings, one of them might be alright to be friends with.

Yeah if your the first one out of your friendship group to have children then you will be on completely different pages, especially if in your early twenties when most are going out on nights out and weekends away and holidays without any restrictions on when they need to be back, it's not really fair to expect them to give up the things they enjoy doing in order to do things that involve children, maybe on the odd occasion but not all the time.