Starting to think I will be single forever

[strawberrysnake]

Had 1 long term relationship which was abusive. Took me several years to leave successfully. Met someone a year later, we really clicked and I thought it was my time to actually be happy and in a healthy relationship. Still think about him everyday, genuinely haven’t felt that way towards someone ever. But it failed, now I’ve been alone for another two years.

Sorry for the self indulgent post, I just feel really fed up and like I will never meet anyone or fall in love. Everyone around me seems to find relationships easily, I feel really disheartened and lonely. Everyone says to stay single until you’re happy with yourself, I’ve done all that now, but after years I don’t want to be alone anymore. I’ve ventured on to dating apps and find them quite depressing.

Has anyone else felt like this and managed to meet someone/things work out?

What's wrong with being single? Take this opportunity to enjoy yourself, travel and have some fun. You can't rely on another person to make you happy - get out there and find your happiness!

You’re not being self indulgent OP- I understand completely how you feel. I also feel like other people seem to find relationships easily whereas I find it so difficult. I also agree that dating apps are depressing, but I am giving them a go as I can’t ever imagine meeting someone the traditional way! I’m sorry I can’t offer any happy stories or advice, but I wanted to say that you are not alone in how you are feeling

I think being single can be nice for a while, but it sounds like OP has done that and is lonely now. I am the same- single for several years, after a long unhappy relationship. Single was great for a while but i just can’t face it forever.

Well, I haven't managed to overcome it yet but you are not being self indulgent.

Other people can bring happiness and I get so annoyed with the sanctimonious advice about travelling and 'finding yourself'.

I hope your luck changes soon.

@strawberrysnake
Do you want children/family Op? How old are you?

You're not alone OP. I'm 30 and having similar feelings. One minute everything is fun and the next time minute everyone is engaged and having babies!

I haven't been in a LTR for 3 years - and now my ex is engaged. I've dated in between but the guys weren't quite right. I go through periods of loneliness too and at times it can feel like you're the only one without a partner.

I am doing everything I want to do though as things may change and I do enjoy my alone time to be honest.

I feel your pain op all I can say is try and enjoy your life, single or not, and try to create the opportunities to meet someone.
This might mean changing jobs, relocating, old, or just getting out there and socialising.
I hope it will happen for you.
Been single is horrible when you just want someone to love who loves you back.