How often do you and your man get it on!!! (make love)

[joedar]

Hubbie and I seem to manage it about once a month!!!

We just seem so busy with the children 11.9.3.almost 2. that we are too tired for intimacy.

We love each other to bits but both feel we are lacking in this department as we just don't make the effort.

We are happy, but I sometimes wonder is important to keep this part of the relationship busy also??

Every day if DP had his way!!!! I make sure i throw a few "headaches" his way tho or i'd end up walking like John Wayne!!!

I think that it can become a thing of the past if you let it. In 16 years we have gone through bouts of not for a good few months, then we seem to find our thing again (not shit I might add) and then not for a while. Once the children were born it was pretty much not. Now my DH has had the snip it may get back to normal but it's finding time when neither of us are tired and the kids are not in the room awake.

Never mind what other people do or don't do - if the freqency with you and your partner is OK with both of you then enjoy. IF one of you wants more/less then you need a good discussion on how to compromise.

Madamez are you following me LOL?

Good point madam everyone has different needs and desires, we both are easy going enough and feel the responsibity lies with us bith to make more effort. We just seem to be in a rut of going to bed reading and dozing off....

Was just curious was this the norm in couples with young familys. It feels all day you are giving to others that by bed time you just want to vegitate with a book.

I guess as wifi says it comes and goes at different stages of life!

We are in the dormant stage!!

Wifi: no you're following me! Shoo! Shoo!

Point for Madamez; Not shit as in poo

Apart from that, if you feel that your needs are not being met, or you think that your partners needs are not being met, you really have to take time out to meet them. Even if it's only the cinema on a Saturday afternoon, it's you two's time.

But then again if you have discussed it and he is ok, as are you, then welcome to the first 5 years of motherhood

Reading and dozing off is very appealing at the end of the day these days......

very rarely, and I mean VERY! in fact I have just been looking at some toys on line this evening.
To try and get me going again as I seem to have totally lost interest and if I am not careful will totally lose dh too!

Usually once a week but I'm pg at the mo very tired and very stressed so it's been about a month- he's frustrated and is requesting a bj as compensation

as often as we feel like it

We have only just got back in the swing of things ! Ds our third child is 7 mo, and I have just been too knackered and focused on him to give any more to dh, until now. I never fancy it when pregnant, so he has been waiting a long time ! i don't know if its just me, but I feel weird doing anything sexy when I am pg, or bf;ing, I just can't seem to give anymore of my body than I already am. So perhaps getting it back on with hubby has co incided with stopping bf;ing just recently. That and the new bed we got for xmas !!!

yes I hear things like that I KNOW I have a big problem. Always had a very low sex drive TBH but ever since having my dd four years ago its all but dissapeared.