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Think I'm going to upset my mum

10 replies

MrsSnape · 27/12/2007 23:45

My mum keeps asking me to go on holiday with her and her husband but their choice of place is often somewhere me and the kids would find hellishly boring like "Heartbeat country" or "a cottage in the middle of nowhere". So I always decline and she gets upset.

Anyway a few weeks ago she said "I wondered if you'd come to blackpool with us but I know you'll say no..." so I said "actually, blackpool is more our thing so possibly" so she was really pleased and excited.

Since then however I'm rappidly going off the idea. Firstly, the expense. I assumed we'd just be booking a b&b ourselves and driving over there for a few days but my mum started going on about brochures and travel agents etc?? I said "its only blackpool, you dont need travel agents!" and she insisted that they like to know everything has been done properly but its going to cost a fortune doing it like that.

I just dont think I'm going to have the money and its important that we move house next year for my sons secondry school so I need to save religiously for that but how do I let her down?

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lazawreath · 27/12/2007 23:46

Just say you can't afford it. Would she be able to pay for you all?

Scramble · 27/12/2007 23:50

Back off now!!!

I nearly went on holiday with PIL once, I was all set to book a gite in france, they go every year in hteir caravan, they said it would be nice to go together, OK perhaps, by the end of the conversation they had us sleeping on campbeds in their caravan awning, beds to be folded in the morning, clothes to be kept in cases in the boot of the car, they had it all planned out. Even telling me yes you walk to the shower block in your towel, then return in towel and dress in the caravan, only to take about 3 pairs of pants, to be washed through and hung up etc etc etc etc.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

lazawreath · 28/12/2007 00:14

scramble, that sounds like a proper swanky holiday

Yes, caravans seem like a good idea til you get there.

Scramble · 28/12/2007 00:17

Don't mind caravans really, just not a tiny 2 berth with my PIL H and 2 kids.

We used to go and meet up with them at easter and stay one night, first time we slept in the awning, fecking freezing frost on ground and all that, 2nd time we took our own tent, still fecking freezing. Now with the kids we limited it to just going for the day, roll eggs eat choclate then drive home.

lazawreath · 28/12/2007 00:24

I once went with my dh to see his parents who were staying in a caravan in the middle of nowhere. When we got there dh went to bed at about 8pm and then his parents went to bed and they all bloody snored, all night! I just couldnt wait to go home again.

lazawreath · 28/12/2007 00:25

Have been on a few caravan holidays. Had a good time on the last one but id rather be in a hotel.

madamez · 28/12/2007 00:39

Can you invent some reason why you can only stay for part of the time they are there - and then either book yourselves a B&B or just grit your collective teeth and 'enjoy' a weekend with them?

threeweekings · 28/12/2007 00:53

Why would you want to stay in a caravan when you have a perfectly good house?

mother3 · 30/12/2007 09:18

Blackpool is lovely 4 kids.I would advise B B as u get meals cooked even if it is only breakfast.also there usaly near the prom and thats where it all goes on.Look on web to see any speacial deals on B B.Theeeeeeres lot of eating places there even if it is only fish/chips but lots of other choices.If you do go look on ebay for vouchers (buy 1 get 1 free ) we went in april and saved lots of money off.Got in to the tower only pay 4 1 the other 1 was free.If you book over the net you can look into how far it is away from the prom etc.You dont have to stick together every second while ther if it gets to much just meet up take your kids to pleasure beach and say you are going to have a look about.Good luck.Happy 2008 x

KaySamuels · 30/12/2007 09:38

Just stick to your guns and say B+B, why don't you offer to arrange it? I'm sure the B+B could write a confirmation of booking letter to appease your mum? Could sell it to her as you will all have a little more spending money to have a lovely time.

Or otherwise tell her to book for herself and let you know the dates, then you can arrange something for you and yours.

Try and find a way to go on your terms, sounds like it could be a 'fun' holiday which your kids would remember, even if you don't!

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