Trying not to be outing, but I’m considering my options after 18 years of marriage. I have 3 children, the older ones are doing A level and GCSEs next year. I want to go alone but I’m worried about the fallout and whether I can successfully uproot my life without damaging my children, also whether I should at least wait until the exam years are over.
There’s no drama here, no affairs, no abuse on either side. Just a woman who’s realised this is not the life she wants forever, and I think that a lot of our ‘unhappiness’ - sniping, petty arguments, irritations are coming from the fact that we just don’t rub along well together anymore and I resent being the default parent with the mental load. Or at least, I would prefer to do it without the hassle of having to factor in another adult’s wants/preferences too.
If I leave, the house would need to be sold and I would be looking to move back to my ‘home’ county which is approx 2 hours away. I have family network there but would essentially be starting again after the best part of 20 years. Is it doable, anyone done and not regretted such a big leap? Will the kids hate me forever?!