Worried about drinking exDH

[Pixiesfan]

DH and I separated two years ago due to his drinking. Since then we've stayed friendly on the whole and his drinking was mainly under control. I met a new partner and so did he. His relationship has ended and he's gone on a bender, drinking all day every day for the past two weeks and said he doesn't want to live anymore. He's had family members die in circumstances like this. I've taken a key and have been checking in on him every day. We have two teenagers who are desperately worried and he's not answering their messages. Al-anon said there's nothing I can do but I don't want him to die. Any advice from anyone please? I have to go back to work in a minute but I'll be back on later. Thanks in advance.

How far are you along the divorce process?.

Al-anon are right, please listen to them. Stop checking on him, it’s not your job. You’re still as caught up in his alcoholism here almost as much as he is by doing all that now. Stop trying to further be a rescuer and or his saviour here, it does not work and your kids need you more. He does not need your help or support, and besides which he does not want that anyway. Let him go. Deal with any issues you have re codependency through counselling.

It’s his choice ultimately, not yours. He could well go onto lose everything else around him and still choose to drink afterwards.

Keep your children well away from this also, they do not need or warrant their dad’s alcoholism further blighting their lives. They could also benefit from contacting Al-ateen.

Put your own self and your kids first now, not the alcoholic.

Thank you @AttilaTheMeerkat - lots to think about there.