Supporting Boyfriend through Child Contact

[SingleTTC31]

Hi,

My bf of 3 months is having a hard time just now with contact arrangements with his children. Going through courts now and he is looking for 50/50. We were speaking on the phone last night and he was saying how he didn't want to bore me with it all. I have been trying not to comment too much when he tells me about what is going on. Not because I'm not interested, but not sure how much to say, don't want to push in or say anything which isn't my place IYSWIM.

Just wondering if any of you have any advice about how best to support with out getting overly involved, because I know it isn't really my problem, but as it involves someone who I see a future with I want to support them.

TIA

@altmember thank you for your reply. Sorry I haven't came back to you before now. I ended up speaking to him, and it turns put he is talking to me less about it now we are together than he did when we were just friends is because he doesn't want to laying all on me. That he is happy to share the details but doesn't want things to end up revolving around his drama. It has been hard at times when I see his disappointment when contact has been changed last minute by his ex. Court have now put arrangement order in place, and it's went well so far.

What @PicaK said, with bells on.

@RedCandyApple, your post was all 'he wants', 'he', 'he', 'he'.. Entitlement in every syllable

Not one word about the best interests of the children.

Just nod and make non commital noises (unless he is being an arse). And keep well out .