How to keep new address secret from ex?

[VforVienetta]

Any advice appreciated;
My friend and her 2 DC are leaving her abusive partner this week, the police have advised her to leave with no warning and to keep her new address secret from him.
The children will have continuing contact with their dad (no DV that I know of), and she is concerned that they will tell him the new address. He will just ask them straight out. The DC are 10 & 7.
How can she deal with this?

She needs to go for supervised contact if he's abusive enough for police involvement. Has he ever been arrested?

Unfortunately it’s likely he will get it out of them

EvenMore No arrests, it's coercive control and verbal abuse from what I know.
He's a nasty piece of work and incredibly controlling, but she also feels threatened by him.

Bump for this evening - she leaves tomorrow, so any suggestions appreciated!

Have the kids changed their school?

All she can do is tell the children not to tell him or arrange supervised contact through the court.

Can pick up and drop off be at a mutually agreed place? Thinking supermarket car park with cctv, so that there is no need for them to go to each houses.
It is incredibly difficult to keep this a secret , it took ex only 2 weeks to find out my address and we have a 6 and 7 year old.
He rang my sons optician who he knew he had seen recently , just ' to confirm our address was right ' and they sang like birds .

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ThisIsStarting no, schools will stay the same.

evrey yes probably what they'll do for a while. She's happy to take them to his, just wants to avoid him accessing her new place or turning up unexpectedly. The stress would be immense.

@VforVienetta

ThisIsStarting no, schools will stay the same.

Well he's just going to follow the kids home from school then isn't he.

ThisIsStarting he could, but I think he would normally be at work during school run.

She's reading the thread btw.

Other ideas have been, taking the house number off for a few weeks so the kids don't immediately know the exact address, or just not telling them the address if they're not aware of it.
Or possibly applying for a non-molestation order (?) if he turns up.

A front door video bell should give her some comfort.

Keep her doors locked.

Never allow him in the door if he does call.

Tell her that she MUST stress to the police that she is afraid for her safety.

Tell her to tell the school she is fleeing domestic abuse.

She needs supervised contact.

She has to tell the police how afraid she is.

Video doorbell is a good shout billy - dunno why I didn't think of that!
All good plans.

Keep the front door locked and use a security chain.

Handovers not at her home, meet in public.

Womens aid have really good ideas with this - tell her to give them a call if she hasn't already.

I was set out a security key chain for free and they even said they could provide someone to fit it if I didn't have anyone to do it

Supervised access.

She could teach the kids a false address and tell them it's a secret.

Thank you all! V much appreciated