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Advice please; Ex seeing DD

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BUDT15 · 19/01/2022 13:46

Ok.. I really need some help here. Me and DD dad have split, he has asked to see her every other weekend.

Here's the thing.. he smokes weed, so do his teenage sons, he deals coke and sometimes takes it and also drinks quite a few at the weekend.

During the day none of the above exist, but at night when he's had a drink they do.

He loves our DD very much - but obviously is Involved in the above.

Now how honestly do I handle this? And what do I say? They adore each other so I don't want to stand in the way of their relationship- but obviously as her mum I have to protect her and it worries me so much that when she's in bed he will see no harm in doing any of this?

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RedCandyApple · 19/01/2022 13:52

How comes this has only been a problem since you split? Was he like this in the relationship? Sounds like it’s a recent split?

BUDT15 · 19/01/2022 13:53

It's always been a problem - and so when I've caught him or felt uncomfortable I have removed me and DD from the home. I eventually had enough and walked away...

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endofthelinefinally · 19/01/2022 13:55

I would be informing police and social services.

BUDT15 · 19/01/2022 13:55

...had enough of constantly trying to protect our daughter and eventually found the courage to do the right thing permanently. (He has also messaged other women/escorts - on many occasions in the time we have been together) x

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