Lots of chatter about No Contact on here. Must be the season.
We successfully used it as a space to think, to heal and to get perspective. On day 1 I thought it was over and didn’t love him in the same way as I did. Day 10 I was wondering what he was up to and if he was ok. Day 20 I was missing him a lot. Day 30 I realised that our problems could be overcome and despite everyone saying different, by day 60 we got back together. Best use of the time was to focus on me, focus on what I wanted and I used the time for me to decide. We had flip flopped back and forth and got nowhere. It was on off a few times but we had to have a firebreak.
All I want to say is use the time for you. Use the time to decide what you want. And most importantly, when one of you reconnects, as is mostly the case with NC decide what you’re going to say. I simply said “we can choose to work at this as deep down, there is a connection that I’ve never felt before”