Post-child marriage advice

[KO2018]

Seem to be having arguments that turn very mean very fast since baby came along. We know we are both sleep deprived and stressed. We always end up friends again but it’s hard work arguing when we need to be a team. It seems to be variations on who is more tired/pulling their weight more with household chores/being with baby. TBH I don’t think either of us is really doing any more than the other but it’s just so all-consuming it’s all too easy to get wound up by little things.

Does anyone have any advice for how to get through this time?

Ditto! I could have wrote this. No advice but just remember it's not forever. Sit down with your partner and agree to stop bickering and if you cause it, apologise and expect the same from him. We can all get cranky when we've had no sleep

Do you have any support network? If so, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Most grandparents etc have been there and understand. If you are both struggling, ask for help and get some sleep. Catch it while you can. The other things you can do are not worry too much about the house. Houses will be untidy when you have a baby. Don’t over stress about baby and feeding etc. If BF and it is tiring/hard work then stop and change to bottle. I wish I had!