Reuse engagement ring parts

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I need some viewpoints!!! I have a lovely sizeable three diamond engagement ring from my previous marriage. It may be relevant that I chose and paid for it as an upgrade to my original engagement ring that my ex paid for.

There is general chit chat with my current partner that an engagement may be on the cards in the future and that he has started getting some stones but that it won't be a glam as my previous ring. He then commented that he would be ok if I dismantled the previous engagement ring and added it to his collection which he would then get designed into a new ring. He knows I have champagne taste and he has beer money.

Now for the record he is right but I don't care if he gets me a ring or not. Or wether he spend £1 or thousands. But vanity wise I do like good jewellery.

So I could be practical and offer him my old ring to use - after all I have no problem with second hand jewellery when I don't know it's history.

Or is that just weird. And the ring stays in its box waiting for my daughter to reuse.

I have no problem with second hand jewellery when I don't know it's history.

I suppose the issue is that this ring has your history and you do know it.

On the other hand, breaking it down just turns it into diamonds and scrap metal. The design of the ring would be completely new and personal to this relationship.

I think I'd go for letting him use the stones.

I recently had 2 rings turned into 1 and I saw the diamonds when they were free of their old settings - they were just diamonds then, not the rings they used to be.

I’d be ok with re-using old ring. I bought a second hand wedding dress and my engagement ring is an antique. I think that as long as they don’t hold any meaning in that sense to you, it’s ok. Especially since it’s not even the ring used in your actual wedding ceremony as a symbol for your love and commitment.

If you like nice jewellery - I don’t see any issues with it at all. It’s nice to have a ring you like.
You paid for the stones anyway…. And when taken out of the setting - it’ll be stones again.

In your place - I’d also see if there is some way you can have an input in the design. You are the one who will be wearing it. And I am guessing he isn’t designing jewellery on a regular basis.

I think reusing the stones from your old ring is a great idea especially if it’s just sitting in a box. I recently had a ring made and it’s so lovely to have something unique that was made specially for you. Definitely get involved in the design process though!

Is your dd your daughter with the ex? If so I’d want to give her the ring and have a fresh start with the new partner with a ring that fits both of our financial circumstances.

I am divorced. And I still haven my engagement ring.
However - it’s feel strange to pass it to either of my daughters as this ring isn’t a reminder of a happy lasting marriage.
I think you’ll be better off passing the next the to your daughter. (Hopefully this will be a long and happy marriage)

Thank you all x I will ponder some more.

My biggest worry is that when I look at the new ring I will think of ex!

I think part of what I should do is dismantle the ring now so I can start looking at it more in its component parts x