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Having relationship problems?

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sar276 · 16/01/2022 20:17

Having relationship problems, where I don't know what to do? Anyone been in the same position where things have changed in your relationship no communication no affection don't know where to stand and they are acting distant with you?

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EstherMumsnet · 16/01/2022 22:18

Bumping this for you OP - hope you get some advice soon.

Alcemeg · 16/01/2022 22:26

OP, I think you need to be more specific! 😊

How do you feel your relationship has changed? when did this happen, how long did it take, and any guesses as to what might have caused it?

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sar276 · 16/01/2022 22:46

@Alcemeg

OP, I think you need to be more specific! 😊

How do you feel your relationship has changed? when did this happen, how long did it take, and any guesses as to what might have caused it?

I feel like it's changed as in how it use to be isn't how it is anymore, I know that relationships change overtime but not like this like he never communicates about anything if I speak about an issue I have I get shut down and he always says nothing had changed to get off the subject, he doesn't touch me anymore and he use to a lot just acting so distant with me, I have to force conversation out of him when he's with me. His whole attitude to our relationship has changed, he doesn't wanna go out and do things together (I've asked several times) we've been together for 8 months which isn't a long time really, I just feel like he doesn't want to be with me, but he says he does and that he loves me but has a very funny way of showing it also every time we are together nowadays that's all we do is bicker and we use to wind eachother up and joke about but don't even do that anymore.. I don't know what the cause could be I kept thinking it was all in my head but it definitely isn't! I'm just stuck on what to do it's been like this for the last month I'd say😏

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Delawaregirl · 16/01/2022 23:20

Are you actually getting anything out of this relationship? Doesn't matter what he says its what he does that counts and it sounds like he has checked out. You can't make him talk or be close to you, but you can chose not to put up with it.
I'd be ending this, 8 months should be the honeymoon period and if you are so miserable, it's not working out.

Alcemeg · 17/01/2022 10:40

I'd agree with the PP, 8 months is no time at all for this miserable situation to have become your new normal. Just because he has low expectations from a relationship doesn't mean you should drop yours to match.

Tdcp · 17/01/2022 10:45

I thought you'd been together 8 years not 8 months! You don't deserve a relationship like this at all.

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