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Can someone explain the pick me dance to me

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Peppapigforlife · 16/01/2022 17:43

I think my ex is trying to do this to me. We hadn't spoken for six months and I had no intention of talking to him again and then he got back in touch before Christmas. I gave into the talks because I was a bit stressed out and lonely about some stuff. After a couple of weeks of chatting he announced that he couldn't sleep one night because 'a girl got his heart'. Then he sent me a photo of the two of them together. After that I deleted his number and didn't reply. A couple of weeks later he message me on Instagram to ask me how I was. Since then he's been texting regularly asking me how I am and telling me how amazing what we had was and that I'm amazing etc and also dropping this girl and their situation into the conversation.
Is he doing the pick me dance or just leaning on me to support him through a new relationship? If this is the pick me dance, could someone explain it clearly to me , so I know exactly what he's up to.
Obviously if he does this again I'm going to block him but I did entertain the conversations for a bit because I wanted to have my say about how he treated me over our break up and that it wasn't cool and now I've said it I'm not going back there, and just want to process and get proper closure.

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Peppapigforlife · 17/01/2022 18:03

Yeah I'm not going to go back to him at all. It's just an illusion. He put me through a lot more when we were together too which I'm not going to go into but I'm glad this cycle is coming to an end. I've no doubt he will try and worm his way back in somehow with another account or number but I'll just keep blocking. Uffff so unnecessary at this stage of life!

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