Ex fiancé left me when DS was 9 months, six months ago. It seems he had a depressive break down but he had been cold for a long time, we hadn't had sex since early pregnancy (very much his choice), I felt invisible and deeply sad for a long time.After a while of friction we managed to co-parent well. He's an attentive, loving parent who pays maintenance plus half nursery fees, I can't fault him there.
Over the past month we've started getting on very well again, as friends. He's realised I wasn't the problem, his childhood was, he's in therapy. We now spend a fair chunk of time as a family and it's fun, we laugh, there's great affection there, he says he's always loved me, still does just needs to work on himself, he is and was a workaholic and takes stress badly.
Around two months ago I started seeing someone. He's brilliant but it's early days and I don't know if I'm fully ready.
My question is, do I have to tell ex? He's asked, although he said he knows he has no right to ask, and because things are finally good between us I said no. New chap doesn't spend time with DS and won't for a long long time, if it works out. He has met him for about five min, but toddler wouldn't have clocked he's anything more than a friend, and I've no plans for it to happen again.
Do I have to be open at this stage? It's been a very hard six months, we're finally doing all this well together, and new guy isn't going to be in my son's life for a long time. Problem is I hate lying, hate it, I'm bad at it and my anxiety is through the roof. I feel awful.
Please help me, MN massive