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[Keeva2017]

Dp asked me to stop at the shop on the way home. We both had busy day, I had just been to that shop (after spending about 3 hours plus in car via lots of little journeys). I say fine but walk home. I want to get kids home.

He shouts several times I’m being unreasonable, slams car door. He goes to shop and I ask him not to shout at me. I did wait for him and drive him home, I was just frustrated.

Then the way home and at home he makes sarcastic comments about be domestically bullying him by stopping him going to the shop. I just repeat I don’t want him to shout at me. He just repeats “yep, ahem” smirking at me, he tells the kids mummy is wrong. We have had this conversation many times, that I don’t want him to shout at me.

I keep trying to explain but he just laughs at me. I lose it, I feel out of control. He then laughs at me and mocks me and calls me unreasonable.

Well done op. Keep calm and play the long game.

My dad did this to my mum. It was horrific to witness. It was also formative, and I've caught myself repeating his behaviour - sometimes at big strong men.

Please get your kids out of there. You and they deserve better.

Sending you lots of support, OP. Grieving the future you thought you would have is never easy. You are doing the right thing by your children and yourself, though - I really commend you.

He's a cunt

Sorry to resurrect my old thread.

I didn’t know how to link it and I wanted to thank everyone for their support.

I am now single, have been for 3 months. After this thread I entered the denial stage, bumbled along until ex dp worked away for a few days at a time and I realised how happy I was when it was me and the kids.

Then found out he had been dishonest about something related to finance and snap. I was done.

I have realised over the last few weeks that he’s not a bad person but that deep down he doesn’t want the family life and he was an arse hole because he was unhappy. I was giving everything I had but it was never enough. I resented him for draining me. He resented me because it was never enough for him.

So far we are amicable, friendly even. It’s the beginning and I’m not naive to think the road isn’t going to be bumpy. But I’m figuring it out, I’m sad we couldn’t work it out but I am oooh so happy being single.

I got support on here I darent ask for in real life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Such a positive outcome. Thank you so much for letting us know what happened.

Be very proud of yourself. It takes a lot to leave an unhappy marriage, but you're doing it, giving your children a great example of how to value yourself and refuse to be bullied and disrespected.

You recognized the anger that his behavior triggered in you. I admire you so much for breaking that cycle!

Be happy💗

I remember your early posts. I’m so glad things are working out for you.

So glad to read your update OP. I wish you and your DC every happiness.