My husband was really ill for over a year. During that time he was frustrated, had angry mood swings and rarely fun. I just got on with life and did my best to keep on top of life - cooking cleaning washing kids do my job etc. He lashed out at me verbally many many times when ill. He was bed bound a lot.
We (not surprisingly) stopped having sex, we became housemates.
He's better now but the whole verbal abuse has left me cold. He became routinely rude - lost all his manners. Like farting at the dinner table, swearing all the time. He was ridiculously defensive. He claimed he was just being a bloke.
He's apologised and is making an effort now - but I'm still not ready to rekindle a sex life. I put on weight and have been through the menopause - he thinks that's why. It isn't - although he apologised for the verbal abuse I feel really violated. I don't look at him the same.
Anyone else been through this and how did you revive things - or did you leave things alone. We re in our 50 s been together 30 years.