I’m feeling so down with where I’m at..

[Letthisbemyyear]

I get told a lot how nice I am..how funny I am..I have a nice house and good job. No stresses in life..so I’m feeling pretty fed up tonight that life still feels crap.

I was with a guy for 5yrs..majority good. Some issues like all relationships but as a whole I thought we’d last the test of time.
I’ve been married etc so am not naive in thinking this. Sadly he was v immature and has sulked off a few weeks ago over something he did and I haven’t heard from him since.

I just feel so deflated. I don’t feel like I’m good enough for anyone..I was the ideal gf and even then it’s not good enough. I feel I’ve now wasted the last few years when I could be somewhere different. I watch you tube a lot and all I see are happy couples, house purchases, pregnancy etc..I just want to be happy.

Same. I'm the woman who's good enough for a shag and a few laughs. I'm "amazing" apparently but not amazing enough to have a relationship with. No they all fucked off with someone better to do that. Fuck them. No advice, just with you in solidarity. I don't even want to bother again but if I did - he'd literally have to be fucking Superman before I'd even bat an eyelid. So get yourself stronger, believe it was their loss and when the right one crashes all your barriers down you'll feel how proud he is to be by your side x

@AndItDoesntSeemToMatter sorry you’re feeling the same. It’s so hard isn’t it, very deflating. I have a busy active life and just want someone not to treat me like crap tbh.

Same! Own house, car, job, money, life etc etc. There's still so much room and love for the right person though. Are you very independent OP? According to some it's very off-putting and scary to a man, which I find utterly pathetic. Men like to be "needed" and all that. Eyeroll x

@AndItDoesntSeemToMatter I am yes, but I also had plenty of time for him. I was very adaptive and easy going, makes it worse doesn’t it?! I’m just fed up of having to go through this?!

Yep, I was the same. Just wanted to be a healthy, equal partner. Maybe we'd have more luck if we were clingy and needy lol. No thanks I'd rather keep my dignity and stay single!

@AndItDoesntSeemToMatter seems I just attract the needy insecure ones!!

I remember this feeling… I said the next man I kiss is the man I marry… meaning, that he’s have to be incredible for me to bother.

20 years later :)

@nzeire that makes me sad to read. I just want to share my life with someone. I had such fun with my x, why he had to be so selfish

Life can be really crap sometimes. And when a relationship you believe in goes south it can feel like rock bottom.

But it needn't be.

Give yourself time to feel the loss, and then develop a strategy to pick yourself up. That needs to start with you feeling good about yourself, so if that is a bit of an issue work out what could change how you feel. The rest will come. Yes, the clock ticks on but if you focus too much on that you will drive yourself mad.

Ah no, that wasn’t my intention!

I hope all your dreams come true xx