Trigger warning csa. Don’t know what to do

[Blugh]

Hi.
Hopefully someone can help me out with what to do here.
My DP has recently disclosed an incident of sexual abuse to me…. As a survivor myself I completely understand why he couldn’t tell me before now however I’m concerned as it was a close family member who he is still in contact with and he has never told any of his family about this. The perpetrator was a older teenager at the time and it had never been spoken about between them either.

My main concern is I have a DS and obviously would never want him anywhere near this man (now in his 30s). I feel like I really need to encourage him to at least tell his mum but I also don’t want to pressure him in anyway as I know this may cause him to have a complete breakdown. Any advice on how to deal with this would be much appreciated

Its not so easy to disclose abuse to other family members, your DH will be aware of the upset it will cause, and it often ends up with the person disclosing abuse being treated as the problem.

One thing he can do is talk to the police and disclose historic abuse. They can check if this person is involved with children in any capacity. They can also check to see if anyone else has come forwards.

There are also charities dedicated to supporting male survivors of abuse, so google for those and see if there's one local to you.