He loves me but I feel nothing and I’m pregnant

[Jasmine23230]

We’ve been together 7 months now and at the beginning it was great but 2 months in he had a breakdown saying he couldn’t be with me and I was too good for him and that I should leave him, he had 2 breakdowns. And ever since my feelings haven’t been the same for him, I find him so annoying, I hate when he kisses me and touches me. And he never gives me personal space, where ever I am he’s right next to me. He smothers me in love and 2 weeks into our relationship he was telling me he loves me. I got pregnant with his baby and I’m 6 weeks and contemplating an abortion as he doesn’t want a child, he’s broken down into tears when I told him I wanted to keep it at the beginning, whenever I bring up the pregnancy his faces changes to being happy to disappointed.. because I stopped talking about it, it hasn’t been brought up atall and it’s like I’m not even pregnant.

He says we can have another baby in the future when he’s ready financially. I can tell he cares about me as he shows many acts of kindness and is constantly checking up on me.

But I don’t know why I feel the way I do towards him, The only reason I haven’t left him yet is because he says he’ll be so sad and I’ve tried to before and I felt terrible.

You're clearly young, and you have been taught some awful bullshit about relationships.
Tell this man to fuck off and if he ever contacts you again you will report him to the police for harassment. You would be better off ending this pregnancy unless you really want a baby, but that's a choice only you have the right to make.
Once you have got the man out of your life, please look into some kind of counselling or advice for yourself. You sound frighteningly passive - you have EVERY RIGHT to end a relationship with a man whenever you want to, for any reason whatsoever (as has everyone. When someone wants to bin a partner with whom they have shared finances or children, they need to be fair and reasonable about the money and contact with the kids BUT they can still bin the partner and restrict or refuse any contact between the binned partner and themselves. No matter how much the binned partner whines, pleads or threatens.)

@Jasmine23230

He’s now talking about moving in together around summer time, and he keeps asking me to put my location tracker on my iPhone so he can see where I’m at all times and make sure “I’m safe”. He used to have my location but I took it off because he tells me he constantly watched me to check up on me and now he wants it back and is very persistent.

He also says the reason he loves me is because of the love I show to him and that he needed me he love of a woman 😕

@Jasmine23230

This man has "bad news" written all over him. You've been with him practically no time at all and he's already wanting the two of you to move in together. Worse, he wants to track your every move - why would he? You are an adult with your own life, not a child for a parent to monitor what they are doing/where you are when he's not with you.

As far as the pregnancy is concerned, it is absolutely your own decision to make. But - consider that if you proceed with it you would have to deal with him for emotional and financial support as well as access arrangements for many years to come. Is this what you want? Think hard about that.

Whatever your decision, I wish you best of luck for the future. 🌹

Tracking your whereabouts? That’s classic abuser and definitely NOT normal under any circumstances. Ask yourself if you want to raise this baby alone and make a decision based on that.

Many women on here will tell you what happens with a guy like him.

These guys start making it feel like they want to know where you are and what you are doing so they can keep you safe because they really love you.

In fact it’s because they need you. It’s selfish. They are lonely and need a wife or mother, or need a whipping boy, or whatever. And it’s you.

Once they have you they will gradually become more and more intense, checking what you are wearing in case it’s too sexy, where you are going in case you might get chatted up by competition, what you spend your money on as it could be inappropriate in their opinion, such as perfume “why are you buying that, is it for other guys benefit…”

And then you will start to not be allowed out. Not be allowed to see friends as they could ‘lead you astray’ be prevented from attending medical appointments or working in case you meet a guy. Kept at home. Isolated. With no income except what he gives you. With no friends as they r all left you because they hate him when they see what he’s doing to you. You’re stuck. With a baby.

All the women its happened to think ‘it’ll never happen to me”. But it did.

You’re on a sloppy slope with a guy who is needy and potentially dangerous. Get away sensibly and be safe. Decide what to do about the pregnancy once you have escaped.