I am struggling to cope after finding out that my wife had a long affair lasting 18 months with a work colleague. While I know it takes time to comprehend everything, I am haunted by thoughts that I can’t seem to shake off.
We have been married for 9 years and together for 17 years. The affair happened a while back, just two years into our marriage and things only came to light after coming across a suspicious message exchange very recently. I subsequently discovered an exchange of intimate message exchange detailing their activities. They still work at the same firm however my wife has promised that she will not interact with him ever again.
On finding out about the affair, my wife initially refused to tell the truth and instead tried to take back her phone and called the police to suggest that I had violated a data protection act in removing evidence from her phone. It took her a few weeks to be apologetic and show any signs of remorse.
To make matters worse, we have an amazing daughter that’s just one year’s old and I feel that her life will be destroyed if we decide to divorce. I would do anything for our daughter, but the pain is just too much. I still love my wife but hate her for what she has done and can’t seem to get over it.
We tried one session of counselling and to be honest, I personally didn’t think it helped. Maybe it was too early or I was too quick to judge. Your thoughts and comments would be much appreciated.