Heya. I've been dating a guy now for 14 mths. At first it was great - too great maybe. Whirlwind. Looking back it was quite intense, but then things settled down and while it was initially a jolt for him to go from very attentive to very laidback (sometimes quite moody), it felt like we found our groove. We don't live together, both have kids, no plans to move in. Just see each other once or twice a week, texting or the odd call in between, very relaxed. However, he keeps doing this thing that is driving me mad, and I can't work out if he's being a dick or if I'm asking too much. Basically, there have been several times now where I've suggested we do something the next day/day after and he's said he'll need to check something and then let me know. However, he never does this - he never lets me know. At first I'd restrict my own plans in case he came back to me, but now it's so common, I just carry on as though I'm not seeing him. Friday though was kinda hurtful as it was his birthday and I'd got him a gift and was waiting to see if he was coming over. Now in his defence, he's had covid and was waiting to get a negative laterel flow so there had always been a chance he'd have to isolate in his flat but still I said to let me know what his LF test said as if it was neg he could come over. Or I could go to his and drop the gift. I had my boys so wouldn't have been able to stay, but could have given him his gift and wished him a HB. As has happened before, I just never heard from him. He didn't let me know about the test. Am I being unreasonable to be a bit miffed about this? I have brought it up with him the last couple of times he's not contacted me and he just says he doesn't realise he was supposed to be, but is someone really that forgetful? Or does he just not listen to me when I say to let me know? I can't work it out, it's so baffling! Especially as I have raised it before.