So that’s it we’re splitting…

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I’ve posted before about my marriage, being dead, joyless or functional. I am married to a good man and have two small kids, we have a nice home and financial stability. And we’re breaking up, because we have had no rapport or connection for years, 6 out of 7 years of marriage. It’s killing both of us, we know we can’t continue like this, but the prospect of all the challenges of a change and making it happen and dealing with all the emotions, and having the confidence that it’s the right decision are terrifying me. We’ve did a year of counselling and nothing changed, it is just all so sad and bleak. We’ve decided to sell our home and split proceeds.

Why am I so wracked with doubt and guilt and confusion and now zero confidence about my judgement and needs.

Any support would be welcome please.

Just seeing how many similar threads there are right now.

You should not live without joy. Go for it. It will be the best decision ever.

Breaking up is hard to do!
It sounds like its the right thing to do though.

I feel like I am about to make a similar decision. I’m scared for my DC and I’m scared that he won’t cope alone but we are currently existing and barely friends. We have no sex and haven’t done for years. He blames that on me and told me the other night that I am a shit wife and I always have been! I don’t think I can come back from that and I going to use it as my reason to split. Sad and scared but dreaming of my own home. How are you managing the split with the children? This is the bit I am really worried about

You'll be ok.

Adjustment is always hard.

It’s fear of the unknown. The future will hold some good things and it will hold some shit things, because that is just how life goes. But whatever happens, it won’t be what it is now; a joyless slog to get through each day with that person.

You can do this. You’ve already done the hardest bit.