If a man said this to you....

[mickeymousey]

What would you feel or
Think?
'I am much more attracted to you since
You lost your excess weight' which now means that the person is within normal bmi instead of two stone overweight?
It wasn't said to me but is it a fair comment ?

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Yuk. What a terrible way of giving a compliment. Instead of saying ‘you look nice’ it’s ‘I approve’ so it’s about him and then throwing in an insult about the way she previously looked. What a jerk.

That is totally disgusting that someone partner can say that about them after loosing the weight . Why not I think your amazing as you was before and are amazing now . What a pig.

I'm actually going to disagree with the general consensus.

I've lost a lot of weight. DP had always stayed clear of saying anything that could be taken as criticism or encouragement one way or the other but always said I was beautiful. Now I've lost so much weight, I know I look better - and he's tried to say similar but slightly less clumsily - 'You've always been beautiful, but now you look more amazing than ever'.

It’s a bad way of saying it.
But there is no way around it - we are visual creatures. And if looks didn’t affect attractiveness - we’d be pairing up with people just off resumes and phone conversations.

I love my partner, and if he out on some weight - his attractiveness to me won’t change. Up to a point. After that point - I know it will change.
Same is true in reverse.

No I wouldn't be offended. I'd know myself I looked a lot better when I wasn't overweight, so it wouldn't be a revelation to me. I'd prefer a partner to be honest than to patronise me by pretending it made no difference.

I feel he's being brutally honest. Fancying someone is based on looks. Love is about connection. He may well love her dearly, but losing weight, looking healthier and more toned means he fancies her more. It's a back handed compliment granted. It's not like he said " I'll only love you if keep the weight off".

If you are in a serious relationship you are attracted to the person, and not just how they look

Not just now they look, no, but it’s not vacuous, unreasonable or shallow to have a preference and to prefer your partner at a healthy weight which suits them, whether that’s what they looked like when you got together or if they lose weight after. Love is about the whole person, attraction is a lot to do with appearance for most people and attitude for even more people.

A really weird way to word it. It actually sounds very formal for a man to say to his wife??

Hmm, tough one. Two stone is a lot and no doubt the person looks a lot different with the weight gone.

Is it fair if him to say that? No, he could have phrased it better.